Have you been noticing this disturbing trend? Have you taken note of the reckless manner more and more women now cheat on their husbands without shame or remorse? This shocking development has taken many by surprise. Married women appear to be on the rampage, looking for both young men and older men to devour. While some of them still have the decency to hide their marital status, many others do not bother. They flaunt their wedding rings and tell anyone who cares to listen that they are married but not happily married. While it can be argued that this is not entirely a new thing among married women, it has always been happening, but never at the rate it’s happening now. With the advent of modern technology which has made social interaction and intimacy faster and deeper, it has been a whole lot easier for women to birth an extramarital affair right under the nose of their husbands. But what are the reasons behind this e4xtremeloy disturbing trend? Why are our married women ignoring their marital vows and climbing into bed with their lovers without a sense of fear and regret?
City People went out to speak with a handful of married women and found out what could make them cheat on their husbands and desecrate their marital vows. Below are 5 of the reasons many of them admitted drive married into women into the arms of another man. Without a doubt, the economic downturn in the country has adversely affected the earnings of most men. Their resources have greatly diminished. Most men now lack the financial muscle to meet their responsibilities in the home. As a matter of fact, statistics are beginning to show that more and more women are becoming the breadwinners in their homes. So, for a lot of women, when their husbands can no longer afford to pay the school fees of their kids or the rent is due and the man has no means of paying, rather than be exposed to the shame that could follow, many married women would rather seek help discreetly from another man outside, using what they have, their body in this instance, to get what they need.
Without a doubt, the economic downturn in the country has adversely affected the earnings of most men. Their resources have greatly diminished. Most men now lack the financial muscle to meet their responsibilities in the home. As a matter of fact, statistics are beginning to show that more and more women are becoming the breadwinners in their homes. So, for a lot of women, when their husbands can no longer afford to pay the school fees of their kids or the rent is due and the man has no means of paying, rather than be exposed to the shame that could follow, many married women would rather seek help discreetly from another man outside, using what they have, their body in this instance, to get what they need.
You will be surprised at the number of women who are at the moment enduring torturous loneliness. They are married to men who are hardly at home either by choice or by circumstance. Some of them have jobs or businesses that take them away from work often but there are also those who have no business staying away from home. But they simply don’t find it fun staying at home with wife and kids anymore so they come up with all sorts of lies about jobs and businesses that have to be done outside their base. And they could be away for weeks. So, this leaves the emotionally shattered wives to seek for companionship elsewhere. And how else would she find that companionship if she doesn’t go cheating on her husband?
LACK OF CONNECTION
The primary driver that women have in an intimate relationship is to feel connected. For women, the feeling of connection is a mix of chemical bliss that creates attraction and intimacy. When women feel disconnected from their spouse, the feelings of intimacy fade. The possibility of a new connection with someone else opens up. And these emotional connections can easily lead to physical affairs. That can happen through Facebook with an old boyfriend, a friendly co-worker, or even an intriguing stranger. The common theme is simply that an emotional connection was created and led to the affair.
This may be unpopular to some but about 1 in 5 affairs by women happen because of “pay-back”. It’s revenge for the husband’s affair. It’s vengeance for some perceived wrong or mistreatment. Numerous women have confided that their affairs were intentional “pay-back” because their husbands were caught red-handed with another woman. For some, their husbands have cheated on them time and time again. They ask for forgiveness and promise never to stray again but they end up going back to their numerous concubines. For the women married to such men, sleeping with another is like sweet revenge for them.
It’s no secret that people’s stressful, fully scheduled, fast-paced living leads to unsatisfying sex lives. Lack of passionate and fulfilling sex is another driver for affairs.
While men may complain about the quantity of sex, women complain about the quality. Women often comment on the lack of sex initiated by their husbands with the desired amount of passion. Here’s a sample of what I’ve heard some women say; “I want him to just take me spontaneously”, “I want him to be more aggressive.” For many others, it is a worse scenario. Their husbands no longer touch them, and even when they do, it barely lasts a few minutes, and like Indomie noodles, it’s all done and over with. So, the women are left with no other choice but to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
There is no doubt that women are often less satisfied with their marriage than men. Not only are women having affairs at increasing rates, they initiate divorce at staggering levels. According to statistics available, women initiated 69% of divorce. Maybe this is a wake-up call to men. We need to start treating our women right. If you treat them the way they ought to be treated, with love and affection, they will surely stay faithful and committed to making their marriage or relationship work.
– WALE LAWAL