More often than not, women find themselves on the receiving end of some unsolicited dating advice from friends and colleagues who deem themselves experts in that department.
The problem with dating rules is that they presume that all people are similar.
Every single relationship is different just like every person is different.
What works for your friends might not necessarily work for you.
Engaging in mind games and manipulation of body language will only make it harder for you to find a genuine soul mate. Why not disregard all the rules and just focus on being yourself and having fun?
The only rule in dating should be that there are no rules in dating. Rules like the ones below should not bother you:
Wait for the man to ask you out
Too many women are hesitant to ask guys out on dates. Most can’t even give guys a hint that they are interested in them. The worst that can happen if you ask a man out is that he might say no. Sure, rejection is scary, but if men can risk it, so can we. Women need to stop believing that men should always make the first move and that it is wrong for a woman to initiate. If you like somebody, ask him out!
The guy should be first to confess love
All magazine quizzes and relationship self-help books pretty much say that a woman should never say the ‘L’ word first. I see nothing wrong in letting your feelings known.
Of course, you shouldn’t blurt it out on the second date because that will just freak him out. If you have been dating for some time and you both seem to be taking your relationship seriously, you can say the L-word first. There is no law against saying ‘I love you’ first, whether you are a woman or a man. So, say it when you damn well feel like it!
A woman should play hard to get
As a woman, you are told time and again that you shouldn’t show too much interest in a man because it purportedly sends the message that you are not easy and are in high demand.
Showing that you are interested in a man is often misconstrued as desperation. Making him ‘work for it’ could actually backfire. If you show a man some interest, he will be more interested in you. Nowadays, men don’t have time to play games. It is either you are interested or not.
No sex before date number three
Since time immemorial, women have been told that sleeping with a man too soon is a surefire way to killing any chance of respect from a guy. The truth is, there is no right or wrong time to have sex with a guy. Contrary to popular belief, hooking up with a man does not change the outcome of the relationship. So, it doesn’t matter if the chemistry is there three hours after meeting or a couple of months later. It all depends on you and what works for you.
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