My name is Dolapo. I am 37 years and I’m still single. I have been nursing a relationship with my fiance of 6 years who lives abroad and promised we would get married as soon as he comes back into the country. I was so committed to the relationship that I bought myself an engagement ring to keep other potential suitors away.
Let me state here that I am also a dedicated worker in my church. I am the head usher and a two-time youth leader. My pastor would some time call me out from the congregation and ask that the church prays for me as I have been very useful to the church.
My fiancé returned from the UK and we began the wedding preparation. I met with his parents and he has met with mine. We decided to start our counseling session and he suggested we consult my church pastor.
On the first day we visited my pastor, he suggested we come into his office separately so I got in first. He prayed for me and gave me quite a handful advice on how to sustain a happily married life.
I left his office within 5 minutes and my fiancé proceeded into the pastor’s office. It took him about thirty minutes and I was wondering what could have kept them that long.
As soon as my fiancé stepped out of my pastor’s office, I saw a different countenance all over his face. He reluctantly got into the car with me and never said a word. My sweet heart left my place that night and never returned. I later gathered that he traveled back to UK about a week after our meeting.
My life has not remained the same as I have stopped going to church. I wonder every second what my pastor could have said to him. Did he discourage him? Did he tell him I have been a flirt? Could he have said I will make a bad housewife?
I don’t know if I will ever get these questions out of my mind as my heart grows heavy by the day. It makes a year today that my supposed- life partner left me. I still see the pastor around and the thought that I should confront him and demand to know what really transpired between them on that day, but I still feel that inner resistance. Who really offended me? The pastor..or my fiance ? ���x@