Hi WALE, I have a problem. My name is Ranti, I’m 21 years old and single. I have not been able to get over my ex-boyfriend with whom I parted ways over a year ago. I have not been able to start another relationship ever since because my heart is still with him. The only problem now is that he’s married, yet my heart still yearns for him! What do I do? Please hide my number.
Ranti, I am so o sorry there’s little I can do for you here. What would you have me say to you? Tell you to pray and have God separate the guy band his wife so that his wife can come back to you? That won’t happen! Truth is, if by any stroke of misfortune your ex and his wife ever part ways, the guy may never come looking for you. You were there when he got married, yet he chose another woman over you, what makes you think he won’t do the same again? If you ask me, I think the guy has confined you to his past and moved on. You, my dear, should do the same too. There are thousands of men out there who find you attractive and desire to be that special man your life. You must fight to deal with your emotions and confine your ex to your past too. Tell yourself its over between you two and nothing can ever change that. Then, the next step is to open the door to your heart and let a man who would truly love and appreciate you come in.
Good day Doctor Love, my problem is that I’m in love with my boyfriend’s friend. I actually love my guy but I found myself falling in love with his friend. Now, my guy has discovered that I’m dating his friend and he’s very angry, but his friend is much better than him. Please, help me, what do I do now? -080674975****
My dear, you didn’t tell me your age. I would’ve loved to know how old you are, it will help me understand your situation better. I don’t condone young girls like you jumping from one guy to the other, forgetting that you owe yourself the responsibility to keep your dignity intact as a woman. What you do not seem to realize is that your boyfriend’s that you’re now dating will neither respect you nor give you the sort of love and affection you’re looking for. He may look like he’s giving you all that now, but believe me, is doing all that because of what he’s hoping to get from you or already getting from your body. Once he gets what he wants and he’s had his fill, he’s off. Remember he knows you dated his friend and you two probably got sexually intimate, so what would be his pride having you as his girl when he knows his friend ‘has been there too’? Mark my words, at the end of the day, his guy will drop you like piece of trash and the two friends will carry on with their friendship and make you an object of ridicule. You want my advice, if you haven’t gotten sexually intimate with your new guy, go back to your old boyfriend or you simply leave the two friends and walk away.
Dear DOCTOR, my name is Florence and I’m 17 years old. I have a boyfriend that’s 23 years old but all he’s after is sex which I don’t like because I’ve done it before. He’s always forcing me to do it. At first, I took him as a casual friend and then fell in love with him, but my fear now is that he’s always after sex. Please, help me and don’t publish my number, pleeeeeass..
Dear Florence, to start with, at seventeen, you should not be talking about boyfriends and sex. At your age, you should be fully focused on your studies. You should preoccupy yourself with how you should get into the university (that’s if you’re not an undergraduate yet). If you must have a boyfriend, choose one that will help you grow intellectually and with whom you can develop a relationship devoid of sex. The last thing you need now is a boyfriend whose only intention is to turn you into a sex toy, or worse still, he wants to get you pregnant and turn you into a young mother at age seventeen. You shouldn’t be looking for a friend who only needs you to satisfy his sexual cravings, you need friends who can make sensible and positive contributions to your life.