I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I’d been pressured to say Yes. I was sad
It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I’d been pressured to say Yes. I was sad
Everyone was like: “You’re over 30; he’s okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!” My problem? I wasn’t happy!
Everyone was like: “You’re over 30; he’s okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!” My problem? I wasn’t happy!
He’d never hit me, but I just didn’t like him like that. I asked for time. Everyone said: “No! You agreed, you must go through with it!”
That morning, I was crying. My mother said it’s normal. I couldn’t accept that. I felt like I was being sent to a cage. I wasn’t happy!
All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they’ll break the door.
All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they’ll break the door.
11AM and we still hadn’t left the house for 10AM wedding. My dad asked me: Is there somebody else? I said no. He said: You want to shame us.
I lied then that I loved somebody else. There was nobody but I thought that would make them agree to cancel the wedding. They still refused.
By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad’s elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: “Leave her alone!”
By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad’s elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: “Leave her alone!”
She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn’t want to go through with it, then I shouldn’t. Still, some family members insulted me.
She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn’t want to go through with it, then I shouldn’t. Still, some family members insulted me.
My Dad said I should leave his house. His sister said the house wasn’t his but their late father’s (my granddad). A big quarrel broke out.
My Dad now said I was the one to call my husband-to-be to tell him I’d changed my mind. I agreed. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
Of course they were already in church. He didn’t wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn’t stop crying.
Of course they were already in church. He didn’t wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn’t stop crying.
I’ve tried to explain that I wasn’t happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself.
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I’ve tried to explain that I wasn’t happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself.
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Good decision to not go throuhh with something you didn’t want but what was the main reason. Why didn’t you like him?
@bunmi_bum_bum ..Good decision to not go throuhh with something you didn’t want but what was the main reason. Why didn’t you like him?
I didn’t feel any spark in my heart for him. I was just being pressured left and right.
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum Is this a true life story or something sorry, gotta ask
@DeycallmiFaMe It’s my life. It means avoiding a LOT of people and places. I’m even incognito here.
@bunmi_bum_bum Ha sis, I feel u, buh you dint do well at all, ofcos it’s ur life buh u dragged a lot of people into it by not taking d step earlier
@bunmi_bum_bum Ha sis, I feel u, buh you dint do well at all, ofcos it’s ur life buh u dragged a lot of people into it by not taking d step earlier
@DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly! That decision should have been made earlier. It was the best decision but made a little too late. Wish you the best though
@DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly! That decision should have been made earlier. It was the best decision but made a little too late. Wish you the best though
@OyedepoSamuel @DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Not little too late, extremely late actually.
@OyedepoSamuel @DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Not little too late, extremely late actually.
@_khunby Well, maybe I will, but I’m seriously not looking.
@bunmi_bum_bum @_khunby Sorry to ask this,How long did you go along with this before your final decision?Months? Years? You’ve made your decision,time to be strong
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum really don’t know why you said yes in the first place and have them spend all that money tho. But if you’re happy now, fine
@bunmi_bum_bum really don’t know why you said yes in the first place and have them spend all that money tho. But if you’re happy now, fine
@_Ortodox Like I said in another reply, everyone just chanted “Say Yes! Say Yes!” when he proposed at a public gathering. I was weak and I’m sorry.
@_Ortodox Like I said in another reply, everyone just chanted “Say Yes! Say Yes!” when he proposed at a public gathering. I was weak and I’m sorry.
@bunmi_bum_bum don’t have to be sorry. It was for the best. You deserve happiness still
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum You can imagine the resources wasted because one Lady didn’t make up her mind before dragging families on a futile exercise…mtchewwwww!
@bunmi_bum_bum You can imagine the resources wasted because one Lady didn’t make up her mind before dragging families on a futile exercise…mtchewwwww!
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum But she did and they ignored her…repeatedly. She says so! Y’all don’t listen.
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum dont introduce a man 2 ur fam saying u want 2 marry then do a uturn without cogent reasons.They’d assume its just cold feet.which is normal
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum Everyone has doubts moments b4 the wedding. Where was she when the hall and catering was being sorted?if you are okay at that point…..
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum Everyone has doubts moments b4 the wedding. Where was she when the hall and catering was being sorted?if you are okay at that point…..
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Like she said: FAMILY PRESSURE is real. I’ve booked flights and accommodation to my engagement party…it never happened!
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Like she said: FAMILY PRESSURE is real. I’ve booked flights and accommodation to my engagement party…it never happened!
@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum How come no one is blaming the guy
he asked for the disappointment by putting her in a tight corner
@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum How come no one is blaming the guy
@harfeizz @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum These grand gestures also don’t help. Public proposal, family chanting “YES”…ageism for being over 30….a lot tbh!
@harfeizz @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum These grand gestures also don’t help. Public proposal, family chanting “YES”…ageism for being over 30….a lot tbh!
@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly
proposing to a woman in public puts as much pressure on her as all of em dia asking for greeting, she can hardly say she cant
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum @Olanrewaju_v if a guy did this, woke female twitter gang will come for us all
@bunmi_bum_bum @Olanrewaju_v if a guy did this, woke female twitter gang will come for us all
@Omo_Harkin @bunmi_bum_bum My country people *in Tekno voice*
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum You will be punished why you do that owhhh poor Groom
@bunmi_bum_bum You will be punished why you do that owhhh poor Groom
@MadotyeniM I’ve been punished enough, I think. I lost my job; lost life-long friendships; I’ve had to change cities; still I’m afraid to show my face.
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum I was there.. What a sad day for the guy
.. Everyone kept consoling him. He was crying like a baby
This life!
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