It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I’d been pressured to say Yes. I was sad
Everyone was like: “You’re over 30; he’s okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!” My problem? I wasn’t happy!
That morning, I was crying. My mother said it’s normal. I couldn’t accept that. I felt like I was being sent to a cage. I wasn’t happy!
All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they’ll break the door.
I lied then that I loved somebody else. There was nobody but I thought that would make them agree to cancel the wedding. They still refused.
By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad’s elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: “Leave her alone!”
She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn’t want to go through with it, then I shouldn’t. Still, some family members insulted me.
My Dad now said I was the one to call my husband-to-be to tell him I’d changed my mind. I agreed. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
Of course they were already in church. He didn’t wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn’t stop crying.
I’ve tried to explain that I wasn’t happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself.
@bunmi_bum_bum ..Good decision to not go throuhh with something you didn’t want but what was the main reason. Why didn’t you like him?
@DeycallmiFaMe It’s my life. It means avoiding a LOT of people and places. I’m even incognito here.
@bunmi_bum_bum Ha sis, I feel u, buh you dint do well at all, ofcos it’s ur life buh u dragged a lot of people into it by not taking d step earlier
@bunmi_bum_bum really don’t know why you said yes in the first place and have them spend all that money tho. But if you’re happy now, fine
@_Ortodox Like I said in another reply, everyone just chanted “Say Yes! Say Yes!” when he proposed at a public gathering. I was weak and I’m sorry.
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum You can imagine the resources wasted because one Lady didn’t make up her mind before dragging families on a futile exercise…mtchewwwww!