Irrespective of which perception Marriage Institution is being viewed, either from the Religious or Conventional standpoint, which asserts a Man (Husband) as the Head of a Family, or another Supposition, Partnership, which opposes the Conventional standpoint, which firmly believes in Equality of Spouses in a Marital Institution.
Whichever conception, one cannot but take into cognizance that the Husband and Wife both have vital roles to play in a Marriage because Marriage is a Union of two people and not just one person.
Due to the Societal pressure coupled some ridiculous and unfounded beliefs such as ”A woman who is not married by 30 is an old cargo”…”The biological clock of woman ticks fast”…”The beauty of a woman is having a Crown(a man) on her Head”, many Matured single ladies are immensely pressured to walk into a marriage, which knowingly to them from the onset was going to be a catastrophe.They just want to be married so as not to be subjected to contemptuous and dismissive language, narrative or behaviour from the Society.
So, many say,”Yes, I do” to any man that tag along or even out of desperation cajole the man into marriage…Some are lucky, while many find themselves in bad and ugly situations.A situation where the man sees them as a Pawn on the Board,thereby exhausting them financially.
A woman once narrated her ordeal which I confirmed.Her Husband is grossly irresponsible.She saw the pattern from the beginning.When she was dating him, he had nothing doing but she thought after marriage and children start coming he would change.Children came and she was still the one struggling to live up to the responsibilities of two adults.She got him jobs on several occasions but he was always giving excuses.She has been the one working for 10 years now, since they got married,while the Husband sleeps throughout the day and in the evening, hangs out with his friends.Every day,he comes up with a new excuse for not working…He will even call the wife to transfer money to him to buy water to drink.It is as bad as that.
Many are Widows of Living dead,working without ceasing to live up to the responsibilities of two adults.I am not referring to temporary situational problems, whereby the Husband due to loss of job or unforseeable events cannot live up to his responsibility or the man is handicapped or disabled.But when a man who is sound,mentally and physically can’t contribute to the provision of his family,he is grossly irresponsible not worthy and that thing dangling between his legs.
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