I am sure you were waiting for this, you just wanted to be sure what this woman is talking about giving a woman a head, awww some things are better experienced than imagined but im keeping to my promise of telling you just a few things you can do to keep your woman all to yourself.
Shortly after I assumed responsibilities as Station Manager of a Radio Station in Ogun State, Southwest Nigeria, I restructured and repackaged some programmes, creating new programmes in the process. I listened to night programmes on radio in Lagos and outside the state and I discovered that people only scratched matters on the surface, there were gray or no-go areas, there were things people didn’t want to talk about just because they wanted to be seen as religious or because they wanted people to be amazed at their high moral standards but then how do you want to keep your man or woman from straying on to someone else’s bed if you don’t know the techniques of keeping them constantly rooting for your midas touch?
I saw the need for people to talk, to express themselves and speak from the bottom of their hearts and voice out about things that affected them emotionally so a down to earth night programme was created and the people keyed into it and bam….everyone was talking!
There was this particular night where the presenters had launched the programme and the topic was on cunnilingus aka “the Head” and one woman called, saying she had been in marriage for over 20 years but found out in the course of this marriage that her husband never wanted to hear a word of it when she raised the issues about how she wanted to be served in bed!
“Cunnilingus” comes from the Latin cunnus for vulva, women’s external genitalia, and lingere, to lick. Cunnilingus is popular but less so than many people believe. According to a survey by researchers at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute, 75 percent of adult women have received it at least once, with 60 percent of those age 21 to 49 saying they’ve received it during the past year, and 33 percent of women over 50.
That woman who called into the show loved to be given a head, she wanted her husband to eat her pussy, she mentioned that she kept the place neat and clean but the man could never imagine it so she found better ways to get what she wanted “I go out and get it” those were her words and I froze at home because I didn’t know how my young lady presenters were going to handle the matter!
Anyway, why will any sane man not properly serve his wife in bed? Whose job is it to give your spouse sexual pleasures? Why would any man refuse his wife her sexual fantasies? Is this the reason why many marriages and relationships are breaking up? What happened to communicating your pattern to your partner about the clitoral stimulation you need, both in and outside of the bedroom.
Sometimes I wonder when we will go beyond the usual missionary style of lay flat in bed, spread your legs wide and let me jump in and out. Things are changing and people are experiencing better ways of reaching or achieving orgasm.
In our society today, we often learn early in life that sex is not an acceptable topic for conversation. If parents don’t talk about sex at home, children do not learn good ways and good words to talk about sex later in life. Many learn about it the wrong way and the words we use to describe sex are associated with negative emotions so when a woman tries to talk about how she wants to be served she is seen as a promiscuous woman or simply a prostitute so some women marry and try to suppress all these emotions that gives her the pleasures of sex.
If you fall into this category of those with partners that cant come to terms with giving you the head you want, you can start by teaching them other ways to stimulate and put you in the mood, you can put your partner’s hand in the right place, guiding it with yours. Indeed, whether it’s the first of the fiftieth time, you can guide your partner’s hands to touch you the way you like.
Do you know you can use words to convey your sexual desires, such as to touch here or there, harder or lighter. “More,” “faster,” “slower,” and “harder” are words that can be quickly and efficiently used. Of course, such simple instructions can result in miscommunication sometimes but then, for someone who understands you, they will follow through.
If you want to teach your partner exactly how to stimulate your clitoris something that works wonders is guiding them through it, just simply means you will hold his hand guide his fingers so he learns the rhythm.
There is no classroom where you learn to give sexual pleasures so most men struggle when they try to give their woman intense sexual experiences and one of the biggest contributing factors that have limited men’s ability to please their woman directly lies in their ego.
Why would I put my mouth in a woman’s vagina? God forbid!!!! That is what you hear some men say but then, they only need to understand how this helps them to achieve the aim of making a woman reach orgasm and they will fall in line with it.
Many women feel self-conscious about the aroma and taste of their genitals, and spend some cool cash buying things that keep the area neat and smelling fine but you must know that natural cervical mucus keeps the vagina clean, and washing with soap and water keeps the vulva clean and tasting like the mouth during deep kissing. (now you know)
So before you get down to anything, make sure you both feel comfortable. The tongue is much softer than fingers, so it can provide gentler stimulation and your woman will feel satisfied afterwards. Begin slowly and as gently as you can. Start by kissing her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. Anticipation of cunnilingus can feel very arousing. Then lick the fleshy outer lips then work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress the inner lips. Then circle the vaginal opening and perhaps insert your tongue inside. Eventually move up to the clitoris.
The other things you can do include using the tip of your tongue, the flat of it, and your lips as you explore her vulva. You can combine licking with finger and palm massage. After circling her vulva with your tongue, do the same with a finger or two, using light, moderate, or deep pressure, as the woman prefers. Use your fingers to gently part her lips, and if she’s okay with it, insert one or two and massage her inner thighs.
Some women will ejaculate, that is, they will produce fluid on orgasm and it is time for you to unleash your innerman! There is truly nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to having sex with your partner. The idea is to be the best you can be for each other. You are a joker if you have never taken your woman to cloud 9 and that’s on the front burner next week!