Wale, I need your advice. I have a problem. My boyfriend got me pregnant and asked me to abort it. I aborted it and after one year without even a call, I decided to go on with my life. I fell in love with another guy who showers me with love. Last month, my ex-boyfriend came and said I should forget about my newfound love. He promised to change but I’m confused.
HMMN, MY DEAR, I don’t know what your problem is o. You say this new guy showers you with love, so what are you looking for again? You want to dump him for somebody who dumped you when you needed him the most? Shine your eyes o, baby girl. It could even be that the only wants to prove that you’re still his ‘property’, that anytime he’s ready, he’ll come for you and you’ll gladly throw your arms open to welcome him. You will not be fair to this new guy if you just walk away from him only to run back into the arms of the very guy who left you thoroughly heartbroken before he found you and brought the sunshine back into your life. Think twice, my sister, do not go hurting the one who loves you. Only God knows what the attraction is between the good girls and the bad boys!
Sir, please, I need your help. My guy says he cannot marry me because of tribal differences and when I call him he switches off his phone saying he was tired. He still says he loves me. Should I leave him? -081396191…
SWEETHEART, what do you want me to say? This guy has been honest enough to tell you his mind. Now, whether indeed he’s reluctant to make you the mother of his unborn children because of tribal differences he claims exists between both of you or he simply thinks you don’t fit into the picture of his future wife, is another case altogether. But the fact remains that ‘bros’ doesn’t see you as being a part of his future plans and the earlier you come to terms with the bitter fact, the better for you. Leave the guy alone and be at least thankful; that he was kind enough to tell you the plain truth. Some other guys would’ve kept leading you on until they were ready to dump you at the last minute, Just when your hopes have been raised into thinking you had a future together. My dear, abeg, close his chapter, it’s time for you to make a fresh start.
Hello, Mr. Wale, my name is Christy. I have a boyfriend whom I’ve been dating for four years. He is a very nice person but the problem is that we seem not to understand ourselves. We argue a lot. He has been asking me to pay him a visit ever since I visited him last year but the long-distance between us is too much. I really wish to see him but my job is not giving me the chance and I don’t have the freedom to go anywhere I want. We used to talk all the time but all that changed. And anytime I try to talk to him about it, we always end up arguing. Please, tell me what to do, I love him. Please, don’t reveal my number.
MY DEAR CHRISTY, you and your man need to ‘calm down’, you hear me? I think that the strain in your long-distance relationship is starting to overwhelm both of you. Long-distance relationships do come with their own peculiar challenges and one of them is the pressure to be with each other for a while that you last set your eyes on each other. And once that meeting is not looking feasible in the shortest possible time, emotions begin to go up. Your guy wants to see you again. You can’t blame him for getting worked up. Now, the problem I have with your request is that you didn’t state your age and neither did you state your location and that of your guy. Having this information would’ve guided me better in offering you the appropriate advice. For instance, if you were of age, I would’ve suggested you speak to your guy about coming over to visit you and then you introduce him to your family as the guy you’re dating. Let them at least, know him. And if he’s at least sincere about his feelings for you, he shouldn’t run away from being introduced to your parents. That way, you could also tell them you wish to pay him a visit once you are able to take a few days off at your workplace. But I do not know how old or mature you really are and if it would be possible for your parents to let you travel out of your base to see a man they hardly know. Try to avoid arguing too much with your man, instead, speak with him gently and let him know you also badly want to see him again but that you both need to put heads together to work out something.