Ever wondered how Tammy and Kirk Franklin have managed to stay happily married for 21 years? Well, Tammy is telling us.

According to her, she loves keeping it spicy for her superstar husband and she’s intentional about every move she makes.

Here’s how she put it:

“I love being his wife but I’m also very intentional about staying his girlfriend! I knew he wouldn’t mind me wearing the flat sandals that I thought about wearing, but I chose to wear the wedges that I know he loves. I pay attention to what makes him smile! I share this not because I’ve always done it perfect but I grew to learn the balance. Although sometimes he gets my bonnet lol, he should also get his Boo!”