How To Make Your Marriage An Interesting Adventure

•Pastor BISI ADEWALE Reveals 25 Ways

“He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.” Proverbs 11:29 KJV

Do not make your marriage a battlefield. Make it an interesting adventure; a place of love and joy.

Adventure is an exciting or very unusual experience. So make your marriage fun, joyful and pleasurable. Make sure your marriage is not normal. Make it an extremely gratifying experience for you and your spouse.

WHAT TO DO

1. Be a very positive partner: Think positively about your spouse. Act positively, talk, relate and react positively.

2. Be a loving partner: Be a loving spouse. Let your spouse enjoy your existence in his or her life.

3. Enjoy the moment: Relax to enjoy the moment in your marriage. Do not seek to be negative. Be positive. Relax and enjoy your marriage.

4. Nurture your marriage: Never see marriage as a battle to fight or as a contest to win. See it as your garden to nurture. Care for it and make it a pleasant place. Remember that is the only marriage you have.

5. Forgive: Your spouse is human; do not expect perfection. You will be hurt; it is not a curse in marriage. It is simply a fact of life and living.

6. Be supportive: Go ahead, give all the support you can give to your spouse, that is what marriage is all about.

7. Seek support: Some people are fond of not seeking support from their spouse. Though they are hurting, they won’t speak out; wives are fond of doing this. Seek support from your spouse. You want your husband to support you to carry the baby or do something in the kitchen; say it out with love and respect. If you need help, say it.

8. Be caring: Be a caregiver. Care for your spouse.

9. Be there: Be available for your spouse, come rain, come sun. Be there for your spouse.

10.  Be protective: Do everything to protect your spouse from people, from your family, your children, from anybody, be protective.

11. Be prayerful: Never underestimate the power of prayer in your marriage; you will always win if you will always pray.

12. Make it a humorous affair: Be humorous, always joke with your spouse. A marriage without humour is like a car without a bumper; it will move, but it will look ugly.

13. Be available: Be available to be a loving wife or husband. You can’t build a great marriage if you are never at home.

14. Be open: Be open to your spouse. No skeleton, no darkroom. Be transparent.

15. Be truthful: Always be honest with your spouse, no lies either ‘’white or black’’

16. Be a hugger: Be generous with hugging. Hug your spouse always. Experts suggest at least four hugs per day for each married couple. Go ahead, hug, and do it now.

17.  Be smitten: Be taken, be smitten with the love of your spouse. Don’t shut down your heart, open up for love.

18. Keep hope alive: Be hopeful about the success of your marriage. Keep hope alive, don’t lose it.

19.  Be playful: Be available to play, play like children, and be playful. Childlikeness makes marriage stronger and better and makes it easy to solve problems and burst conflict.

20. Be Flirty: Flirt regularly with your spouse; be shameless about it. Touch and play; is the game of a good marriage. Don’t build an executive marriage.

21. Be romantic: Get romantic; look forward to it. Be creative about it; your marriage must not be dry and drab. Hug, flirt, touch, kiss, peck, and make your marriage a garden of love.

22. Be kissy: Kiss regularly and joyfully. Get it as your marriage routine and your love life ritual.

23. Be amorous: having or showing strong feelings of sexual attraction or love.

24.  Be terrific in the bedroom: Make sex happen in your marriage. Discuss it with your spouse, and do it regularly and creatively. Sex is a gift from God to married people, enjoy it.

25.  Make it an adventure of Love: Above all, make your marriage an adventure of love, a voyage of romance, built on trust and commitment, You Don’t Have Another Marriage; Make This Work.

Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 100 other books on marriage and family life. You can follow him on Instagram and Twitter @bisiadewale or reach him at askbisiadewale@gmail.com , 08068312004, and blogs daily on www.bisiadewale.com