GOOD DAY, DOCTOR LOVE, my name is Itoann and am 27 years old. I got your number from a magazine. There is something I want to share with you and i need your advice on it. Its about my love life.
So far I have had guys approach me for relationships of which before i accept their proposal I put them through a kind of temper test. I try to know the kind of words they speak when they are angry and so far some have failed until I met a guy in 2020. Though we are still together but there is one trait in him that I dont like and each time I make it known to him he will complain that I nag.
He is the type that is always busy due to his job schedule and we work in the same organization.
When we started the relationship, Ejika will always check on me to see that am okay either health wise or in terms of finance and he helps in the best way he can which I appreciate, especially during the lockdown period he was really there, and to add to this, I am the stay at home type due to the strictness of my parents. I am not allowed to go out even when he plans dates for us to go out, and should I make it to the venue I will be in a hurry to go back home so as not to get home late. And he doesnt like this for he complains we do not spend enough time with each other. But over time he has been able to cope with it since we go to work in the same organization, but he will always say he needs a me and him time where we get to share and discuss things together and me i dont have that time due to my work and my parents.
The present issue I have with him now is what I want to share for I dont want to be in a hurry to accuse him wrongly. Every time he travels for official duties he will put me in the know and also when he is due to return likewise the location of his trip and the reason for the trip, and through out the period he will be away we will be in constant communication with each other.
No matter how busy he is he will still find out time to communicate with me, but off late he doesnt do that any more and when i do the calling he complains I am disturbing him and I will be feeling guilty thinking maybe I called or texted at the wrong time, so I stopped and then he started to complain that I no longer care for him and then I will resume my caring habit and he will also resume his complains. When I got tired and wanted to quit he accused me of having an another affair and the new affair was the reason for not caring for him anymore. And the latest one he did now, its been a week since he traveled and the last time he chatted was to let me know of his arrival at his destination.
And that was all, and when I called the next day he busied my call and texted that he was disccussing with his boss. I called and he didnt pick neither did he call back, I texted he didnt reply. I sent him a chat and he didnt reply and I am not liking this new habit of his and neither am I having an affair with anyone as he claims. Each time he is at fault he makes the issue my fault and now i feel as if he is ignoring me. Doctor Love, the only time I get to play with my boyfriend is when we are together. Even at the office when I want to discuss something important with him and i know I cant say it since its an office environment, I will chat him up and he wont even answer me. Please, doctor am losing it here. He even said am becoming a thorn in his flesh, and it’s so sad I have grown so fond and used to him now.
When I complain or state his offence, rather than apologize he waves it like nothing happened. Please, Doctor Love, what should I do?
DEAR ITOANN, I suspect your guy is getting frustrated that he can’t spend private time with you and have you all to himself.
He has either made up his mind about letting go of the relationship or he is seriously considering to do so.
You need to find a way to get him to sit down and open up to you what the problem is. I can’t read his mind, not even you his girlfriend.
When he returns from his trip, tell him you guys need to talk. Let him know he’s hurting you with his attitude and you need to know what the problem is.
Ask him to be patient with you. That soon, you will be able to spend more time with you, but he has to be patient and give you time. If he truly cares about you, he should be more understanding. I think it’s a bit different right now to accurately read the mind of your boyfriend to be able to tell if he is sincere with you. It is very possible that he is getting tired of the relationship or he is truly trying to be careful not to let your boss know. I will suggest you take your time before taking a decision. Could it also be that the young man believes he has had enough of you and wants to go for a change of meal, if you know what I mean? Kindly call me, there are questions I need to ask that I can’t ask you on the page of a magazine. Good luck.
HELP! I’M IN LOVE WITH
A YAHOO GUY!
DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, please, advice me. My name is Princess. I have a guy whom I love so much. We started dating a couple of years ago and I must say that things have been really good between us. He loves me a great deal and he shows me a lot of respect. But the problem I have with him is that he is a Yahoo boy. A big scammer. I didn’t know this until we were some months into the relationship. He tried to hide it from me by lying that he works with an IT company. But when I finally found out, he started begging me. I told him I am scared to continue the relationship with him because I fear that he might get into trouble someday and if am not careful I could be caught with him and sent to prison. Ever since I told him I have broken up with him, he has been begging me, telling me he is a changed man now. I really love him and miss him so much. I don’t know what to do, Doctor Love, should I take him back?
MY DEAR PRINCESS, I couldn’t help but shake my head countless times as I read your story. You didn’t mention your age though but I like the fact that you are smart enough to understand the kind of risky situation you are in at the moment. But I am surprised you are still hesitant about dumping him. Do you know that, besides the fact that you could get into trouble with him, you could get shot along with him or worse still, he could even kill you himself if he needs a human flesh. So, my dear, if I have my way, I would ensure you leave the guy immediately and move on with your life. You don’t look to me like a lady that will be comfortable dating a Yahoo guy. You seem too decent for that kind of lifestyle. Please do not negotiate with him, run, run far away from him, he can never be anything but bad news!
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