{"id":139989,"date":"2020-05-25T19:58:17","date_gmt":"2020-05-25T18:58:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.citypeopleonline.com\/?p=139989"},"modified":"2020-05-25T20:58:11","modified_gmt":"2020-05-25T19:58:11","slug":"ask-dr-love-column-help-my-brother-has-been-having-sex-with-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.citypeopleonline.com\/ask-dr-love-column-help-my-brother-has-been-having-sex-with-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Dr Love Column: Help! My Brother Has Been Having SEX With Me!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Hello, Love Doctor, my name is Thelma. My\nbrother has been forcing himself on me for days now and I do not know what to\ndo. Though he is the one taking care of my everything. I live in his house, he\nfeeds me, clothes me and sees me through school. He\u2019s been a fantastic brother\nand I\u2019m so fond of him. We\u2019re very close. But I had no idea he was having\nsexual feelings toward me. Last week, he just came into my room in the night\nand forced himself on me. He later begged and apologized but two days after, he\ndid the same thing. Now, he\u2019s slept with me for more than five times. What do I\ndo, sir, I need your advice\u20260816507\u2026\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thelma, what\u2019s going on here? Are you serious? Your own biological brother having sex with you? And you\u2019re still staying with him inside that house? Listen, Thelma, we need to talk. There are so many questions I need to ask you. Where are your parents living? How come you seem stuck with living with your brother, can\u2019t you report him to the elders of your family? Can\u2019t you leave his place and go stay with a big sister, an aunt or something? This is wrong, Thelma, your brother shouldn\u2019t even be seeing your nakedness how much more sleep with you! Perhaps he\u2019s sick upstairs. Doesn\u2019t he have a girlfriend of his own? This is incest he is committing here and believe me, it has its repercussions. You didn\u2019t mention either your age or your brother\u2019s, that could also help give a clearer picture of what\u2019s happening. This is why I said we must talk, it will be difficult to get all the perspectives to this without speaking to you on the phone. In the meantime, please, put an end to this nonsense, the consequences could be fatal.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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African couple having relationship problems, Cape Town, South Africa<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Hello, Wale, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I must commend you for a job well done. I have a problem that requires your timely advice. I have a boyfriend that I love so much, we have been dating for close to two years and everything was going on fine between us until my younger sister who\u2019s been in the US arrived. The minute I introduced Dave to her when he came visiting, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew something was wrong. From the way the two of them looked at each other and held hands, I knew I was in trouble. Now, my sister is way finer than me and my guy is a really charming man, just the type Maureen (my sister) likes. Believe it or not, I strongly suspect the two are already seeing each other. They call each other and sometimes, Maureen now passes Dave\u2019s message to me claiming he\u2019s been trying to call me but couldn\u2019t get through. I am so scared and confused, Wale, I fear Maureen might take my man away from me. What do I do now? Please, I beg you, don\u2019t publish my number. Thanks\u2026.from Tiannah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is really a tricky one, Tiannah, it requires extreme caution. You need to be very careful, be cocksure your suspicions are true before you accuse these two people who are very close to you of having an affair. You don\u2019t want to imagine what would happen if it turns out you\u2019re wrong. For all you know, they may just be fond of each other. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I could even detect some glint of a complex from the tone of your message. You obviously believe your sister is \u2018way finer\u2019 than you and so has the physical attributes to take away from you any man she so desires. You must get this sort of thought out of your head and begin to see yourself as not just an equally beautiful woman, but one who\u2019s fully capable of keeping her man away from any woman unless you choose to let him go. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seriously, you must address your low self-esteem. Meanwhile, you could nicely mention to Dave that you would appreciate it if he directly discusses with you as against sending your sister to you. Until you have very clear proof, you must not accuse them of anything. If you do and it backfires, you may not be able to deal with the consequences.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What are they up to? \nBBN fake housemate Ese and popular instagram relationship counselor Joro.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Hi, Mr Wale, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, the problem I have with my girl is that she\u2019s not good in bed. After three rounds, she complains she\u2019s exhausted and would never let me have another round with her. Please, help me, what can I do? Thanks, from Capo de Ist\u2026\u2026.070347088\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bros Capo de Ist (what sort of name is that?) believe me, you\u2019re an incredible character! You say you need help? Sure, I will help you, and I can tell you for free that what you need first and foremost is deliverance, period! <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Haba! How can you say your girlfriend isn\u2019t good enough simply because she can\u2019t give you beyond three rounds of sex! Do you want to kill her? Seriously, I\u2019m worried about your real intentions and plans for this girl. Most guys who come up with this sort of complaint you\u2019re making right now usually end up using and dumping girls in your quest for a woman that can match your high libido. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am sorry for the girl you\u2019re presently dating, I can bet my bottom dollar that no matter how much sex she gives you, chances that you\u2019ll marry her are very slim. With you, it\u2019s clear that sex (marathon sex for that matter) in a relationship is a priority, otherwise, the girl go hear ween! Take it easy, my brother, must you empty all the juice deposited inside her by Baba God, wetin the man wey go marry her drink when he comes? <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex is not everything, my brother. If you really love this girl, and you feel she\u2019s not matching your high sex drive, then you come down to match hers because I\u2019m almost certain she also probably had to step up her own to meet you at three rounds. If she\u2019s done well enough to go three rounds with you, then be patient with her. Hopefully, with time, she\u2019ll be able to step up her game some more for you.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

READ ALSO: ROSIE\u2019S DIARY COLUMN \u2013 THE FIRST TIME\u2026 (2)<\/a><\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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