One of the most awkward situations for any parent is catching their child watching pornography or finding evidence of it. How you respond is very important, and the worst thing you can do is behave as if nothing has happened.<\/p>\n
Psychological counsellor Andreas Banetsi Mphunga says it\u2019s better to prevent such situations than to have to deal with them after the fact.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s important for parents to start speaking to their children about pornography and underage sexual interactions, and about the dangers they pose to young people,\u201d Mphunga says. \u201cMany parents tend to shy away from the topic, but it\u2019s so necessary.\u201d<\/p>\n
He says that when children are exposed to pornography, they see it as something \u201cglamorous\u201d that they want to see themselves engaging in, and this is where the danger lies.<\/p>\n
\u201cThey\u2019ll want to practise what they see, and this can often end very badly for them, whether it\u2019s a teenage pregnancy or a situation such as that of the 14-year-old girl who sent a nude video of herself to a man, which subsequently led to the video being leaked on social media,\u201d Mphunga says.<\/p>\n
If you haven\u2019t had the conversation with your child and you find out that they\u2019ve been watching pornography, it\u2019s important that you don\u2019t shame or dismiss the child, but open a dialogue with your child about why they should not be engaging in such behaviour.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou must sit your child down and explain why they can\u2019t watch what they\u2019re watching until the time is right,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd don\u2019t shame your child for what they\u2019ve done. Immediately after you\u2019ve caught them, let them know that you need to sit down and talk. Then set a time for when the conversation is going to happen.\u201d<\/p>\n
At the end of the conversation, it\u2019s important to let your child verbally pledge that they promise not to watch porn until they\u2019re at an age when they can.<\/p>\n
The danger in failing to address the issue is that it indicates to your child that all is okay and that he or she can continue watching unsuitable material.<\/p>\n
\u201cIf your child knows that you\u2019ve discovered something about their engagement with porn and you didn\u2019t say anything, it normalises it for the child,\u201d Mphunga says. \u201cThis is the disadvantage of not saying anything.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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