(1) PRETENDING TO BE SOMETHING FOR A MAN IN THE DESIRE TO PLEASE HIM
Women are constantly doing what would help them to get a man’s attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted in love with them. It’s a horrible idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guy’s attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them. Wrong! You don’t have to act like an ‘easy’ woman for men to like you and you certainly don’t have to play like he’s some gift to the earth. If you think making him more attracted to you means ‘playing to the man’s fantasies’ from the start, think again. You will never succeed by looking for a man’s approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself. Men you truly want are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection etc.
(2) SHARING YOUR FEELINGS
Sharing how you ‘feel’ too early with him is another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men. Listen…attractive, single, successful men are rare. They get a lot of attention from women. You know, when a woman says ‘I really like you ‘after one or two dates, this signals to the man that you’re just like one of those ‘clingy’ stereotyped women who want to rush into a relationship and can’t control yourself from wanting a man. Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
(3) MISREADING THE IMPORTANT ‘SIGNALS’ THAT MEN SEND
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves. Most women don’t pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are. Men have 4 signals (1). Social: Where the man is at in his own life (2) Emotional: Whether or not he is emotionally available. (3). Physical: If he’s attracted to you and for what reasons. (4) Love State: If he’s open to building and growing a relationship in the future. Women need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere with a man.
(4) RELYING ON YOUR NATURAL ABILITY TO JUDGE A MAN’S CHARACTER
People aren’t easy to figure out, especially the opposite sex. Both men and women have their own secret way of saying things, but you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for. Women communicate with body language, flirting etc when they are getting to know a man. They open up to men easily but men communicate with sarcasm, humour, cockiness and ‘indirect’ displays of status. Very rarely will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he’s ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship. Men send indirect signals to avoid pain learn to identify a good man from a bad one by your instincts and natural ability.
(5) EXPECTING A RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE YOU HAPPY
Lots of women think a guy will change their lives and make them happy and fulfilled. And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens, but those are the exceptions, not the rule. So let me be clear. I think it’s important that people help fulfil each other in their lives, whether it’s dating, a relationship, etc but if a woman expresses that she’s looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole and all that kind of stuff, it will think of her. It doesn’t have to be spoken by the woman either. All you need to do is you can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more ‘natural’ way, where he’ll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfilment on his own. This is the only way it can work for you.
(6) TRYING TO ‘CONVINCE HIM TO LIKE YOU OR LOVE YOU
You will never change how a man ‘feels’ when it comes to attraction! Never, ever! You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with ‘logic’ and reasoning.’ Think about it, if a man doesn’t ‘feel it’ for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being ‘reasonable’ with him? When a man just isn’t interested, women will try and case compliments, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches. This is a very bad idea, just allow him be.
(7) NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO IN EACH TYPE OF SITUATION
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman and I don’t mean just sex. I know this might be hard to believe but if you are on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you, and if you don’t know how to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won’t help. You’ll probably screw it up and lose everything.
(8) NOT GETTING HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all. The mistake keeps women from ever having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
Men are different from women, you need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him. Some women do it without knowing, but does the same apply to men? Men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and ‘intuition’, so you have got to be very careful and tread consciously.
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