Sade Faseru is the pretty wife of KICC Lagos Pastor, Femi Faseru. She has been saddled with the responsibility of helping her husband fulfill the vision of the KICC Ministry. Though she is not as popular as her husband, she has played a key role in the church especially in the women and children ministry. A few weeks back, she was her happier self when she was joined by friends and family to celebrate her husband as he turned 50. It was a colourful golden celebration where she also revealed how she felt when her husband told her about the Unusual Call.
This amiable woman of God, Minister Sade as she is fondly referred handles the Women’s Ministry, this ministry brings women of all ages from every work of life together on a regular basis for a time of fellowship, prayer, genuine discussions in an atmosphere of fun and God’s presence. She is also the author of the book , Five Star Rated Marriage which is a veritable manual for happy, functional marriage, and for successful living where she outlines gems like ‘The 5 Ss of Marriage and the ABC of marriage. Her ministry has reflected so much in her personal life as she combines the role of a godmother handling a lot of activities with balancing her home. The beautiful woman has been married for over 20 years and you will never believe it because she looks so prim and young. The couple got married in 1996, blessed with 3 children, Ifeoluwa, Olaoluwa and Iyanuoluwa and its keeps waxing stronger.
The couple had been married before Pastor Femi Faseru decided to take over a pastoral career and also to run KICC church. They were in the USA before they moved back to Nigeria to adhere to his pastoral calling. Both Sade and her husband, Femi are great motivational speakers when it comes to marriage because they have been in it for a longtime, it is one of their major strengths of their call. Minister Sade did not meet her husband as a pastor so How did she feel when her husband told her of his calling?, how did she balanced up being a pastor’s wife? All this she revealed in this short interview with Society Editor, TAYO FAJORIN OYEDIJI (08111811219) and Assistant Editor, Sunday Adigun at her husband’s 50th birthday in Lagos.
How do you feel today as your husband turns 50?
I am excited for babafemi turning 50, I feel good and I wish him the very best in the next 50 years.
How has it been for you having been together for over 20 years?
I have known Babafemi for 25 years and we have been married for 23 years this year. He has been a wonderful man, a go getter,a soldier for God, a soldier for Christ, a wonderful husband,he has spoilt me over the 25 years we have met. He is my banker,he is my everything and a wonderful father as well, very straight,but a precious person.
You did not meet Pastor Femi as a pastor, how did you feel on his decision becoming a pastor when Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo told him?
Definitely I did not meet him as a pastor,he got a call in an unusual way and the day he told me, I told him, just like that, no bible school, nothing at all, I was a bit confused but in the last 16 years, it has been Favour, all the way. I have never regretted on him being a pastor, I did not meet him as a pastor but I had to grow up to meet up with him and I am still growing.
How have you been able to fit in as a pastor’s wife despite all the challenges it comes with?
Wow! Oh yes, being a pastor’s wife is tough but the secret behind it is just being yourself, follow the vision and mission of the ministry you represent, I make sure I help him grow as his wife,I make sure I take up some responsibilities I should in the church, just be yourself and be what God has called you to be, that is just the secret to be a pastor’s wife. Let people know you for who you are and then go with the flow.
Can you talk about your relationship with Pastor Yemisi Ashimolowo?
Ooh Pastor Yemisi,she is my mother, she is my spiritual mother, she taught me everything that I know. Once you see pastor Yemisi, you see a bit of me in her because she is someone that has taught me a lot, I am learning from her and I am still learning, she grew me, I think I came to the ministry raw, if you understand what I mean so she built me to what you have seen today and of course with the grace of God. So she is my spiritual mother, she is my mentor; she is my everything when it comes to the ministry.
What can you say about Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo?
Oh Pastor Matthew, our spiritual father, our everything. Pastor Matthew is a teacher,he is a father, he has a father’s heart, he is everything to us in the ministry. We just look at them and you kind of say, a copycat and that makes it easy because we copy what they do and God has been gracious.
What has sustained your marriage this long?
I believe it is the grace of God. Marriage has been good, like every other marriage, there is a lot of ups and downs but the secret is that God has been gracious and I learn to be myself while he also learnt to be himself and we just work things out that way.
As a pastor’s wife, has there been times that you have issues and got really angry with pastor Femi despite pastor’s preaches against anger?
Ooh, before the pastor title, I am human, and as human beings we get angry but the secret is that know how to manage your anger, I do get angry but I know how to manage my anger.
You recently celebrated your 50th birthday as well, what has life taught you at 50?
Life at 50 has been gracious. It has been of God’s goodness, a lot of grace, I don’t feel 50 but I know I am 50. I am a bit wiser, a bit calmer and I still have more greater things to do so I am still more hungry for God and to reach greater heights in Jesus name.