Good day, Love Doctor, I am Mimi from Lagos and I’m 19 years old. I really have a serious problem. The issue is that I had sex with my sister’s boyfriend and I feel very guilty because I don’t love him, I just did it to satisfy myself because I have not been in any relationship for a while. I feel so guilty….08134740…….
Oh, Mimi, what did you just do? How could you have sex with your sister’s boyfriend? How do you think she will feel if she ever finds out about this despicable act of yours? She certainly won’t be very happy with you. It’s a good thing you’re feeling guilty about this. At least, you’re not willing to continue the illicit relationship with your sister’s boyfriend. Now, the first step is to try and stay far away from this guy as you possibly can. It takes two to tango. Even if you truly felt lonely and became vulnerable to sleeping with a guy you shouldn’t sleep with, how come he too wasn’t in his senses enough to ensure nothing happened between both of you. Clearly, if this guy could sleep with you, his girlfriend’s sister, then your sis is in big trouble should they eventually get married. I’m afraid you’ll probably have to live with this guilt for as long as your sis and this guy are still together. I pray, for your sake, they do not eventually get married, then you would be finally be able to bury your guilt and put the unfortunate incident behind you. But for now, tell this guy nothing can ever happen between you guys again, keep away from him, do not be left all alone in the house with him, do not pick his calls nor reply his message and finally, keep your mouth shut. Take care and God help you.
Hello, Dr. Love, my name’s Mary. I need your help. I do not enjoy sex with my guy and he’s the only one I’m dating. I don’t want to cheat on him by testing it with another guy. Please, help me…0816881…
Dear Mary, I would’ve liked to know your age first and find out from you if your guy met you a virgin. I say this because, from your text, you sound to me like you’ve never had sex with any other man apart from your boyfriend. If that’s the case, all you need to do is discuss your feelings with your man. Let him know your frustrations. Show him the part of your body that you would like him to touch and concentrate on. If he’s also the type that pays little attention to romance and foreplay and then mounts you even before you get wet, let him know your body doesn’t react well to this. You need to have an intimate discussion with him. It should really worry him too that you’re not enjoying sexual intimacy with him, any man worth his salt should be unselfish when it comes to lovemaking. If a woman can’t feel her man, and enjoy him, then its as bad as being punished by him. Open up to him and let him know how you feel, hopefully, if he cares about how you feel, he would put aside his own pleasures and work towards satisfying you.
Doctor Love, please, reply me urgently. I have been dating my man for three years now but his ex-girlfriend still wants him back. Although he says nothing wil make him go back to her, I am not comfortable with the way they have been communicating on the phone, its getting too much for my comfort! Wale, I’m not happy, please, what should I do? My name is Peace from Port-Harcourt…..07031977…..
Dear Peace, I can understand your fears. This is an issue that, oftentimes, rears its head between couples. I can only ask you to calm down and take things easy. If your man says he does not want to take his ex back, then you must believe him. You could also let him know your fears with his ex’s renewed interest in you. But do not push it too much, else he’ll begin to see you as a nag. Three years is enough time for you to know the kind of man you’re dating. If you know him well enough, you should be able to tell if he’s being sincere with you when he said there’s nothing going on between them. My advice is, until he proves otherwise, take your mind off the issue and concentrate on making your relationship with him even stronger.