Mr. Wale, I am married to a young successful man, every woman will want him as their husband. I got married at the age of 18 years and I am 25 years now with two boys and a girl, pregnant with the fourth one. The problem is that I live every day regretting marrying my husband and entering into his family. He has hurt me so much that I only forgive for Christ’s sake but he keeps on hurting me again and again because its already a part of him. He doesn’t cheat on me openly, but its worse than cheating your wife. Please, I live every day in bitterness and loneliness, help me before I die before my time. …07033938…
My dear, I feel for you. How I wish there was some way I could just wish your problem away. But the reality is that problems don’t just go away until we deal with them. First and foremost, I think you need to be frank with yourself and confront yourself with the honest truth – your husband is a womanizer and that it’s a problem you have to deal with. Besides, you knew he had his problem before you married him. You cannot deal with such problems acting like you’re doing. To start with, do you have proof to show that your husband’s cheating on you? If you do, have you asked him to give you reasons why he prefers the company of other women to yours? Are there some things you’re not doing as his wife to keep the fire of romance burning? Talk to him, appeal to his emotions, make him understand how much he’s hurting you and how much you want him back, to love you like he used to. It may take a while before he starts to come back to his senses but you don’t now give up on life just because you’re having issues with your man. Continue to talk to him, continue to pray hard, someday, he will learn his lesson the hard way, then he will come running back into your arms.
Wale, I need your advice. I have a problem. My boyfriend got me pregnant and asked me to abort it. I aborted it and after one year without even a call, I decided to go on with my life. I fell in love with another guy who showers me with love. Last month, my ex-boyfriend came and said I should forget about my new found love. He promised to change but I’m confused.
Hmm….my dear, I don’t know what your problem is o. You say this new guy showers you with love, so what are you looking for again? You want to dump0 him for somebody who dumped you when you needed him the most? Shine your eyes o, baby girl. It could even be that the only wants to prove that you’re still his ‘property’, that anytime he’s ready, he’ll come for you and you’ll gladly throw your arms open to welcome him. You will not be fair to this new guy if you just walk away from him only to run back into the arms of the very guy who left you thoroughly heartbroken before he found you and brought the sunshine back into your life. Think twice, my sister, do not go hurting the one who loves you. Only God knows what the attraction is between the good girls and the bad boys!
HI WALE, I have been dating a guy for 6 years. The whole relationship is based on openness. Some months ago, I decided to cheat on my guy since I was in school and he was aware and told me to stop and I did, only for the new guy to take things serious and told my boyfriend rubbish about me. My boyfriend tells me its over but still we talk on phone and even have sex but quarrel all the time. Please, advise me, I need your help…081886779..
How I wish you told me your age, that would’ve aided me in knowing the kind of tongue bashing to give you. I don’t know what you’re expecting from me, but I sincerely believe you’re getting what you deserve. I don’t know what you young people think when you get yourself involved in all kinds of mess. You say you and your guy have a relationship that’s based on openness, is sleeping with another man with the knowledge of your guy what you people call openness? Sorry, but the other name for it is prostitution! Promiscuity! Sexual recklessness! Imagine, your guy knew you were cheating on him and was even telling you to stop. Obviously, he must think of you as an extremely wayward girl. If I were you, I would beg this guy thoroughly for forgiveness and see if he’ll forgive you thoroughly from the depth of his heart. Otherwise, even if he accepts you back, things may or never be the same between you guys again. He may never be able to trust you like before, or love you completely like he used to. If he decides to cheat on you too, what will you tell him? How will you fight him? In fact, some other guys will lead you on into thinking he’s forgiven you and that he’s still prepared to marry you, only for him to surprise yu with a wedding invitation that has a different bride name that’s certainly not yours! Sweetheart, you have fumbled and if I were you, I would really beg this guy and ask him if there’s still a future between both of you, instead of just having sex with him for no sensible reason. Abi, na which account you wan to write all that one?