HI WALE, I have been dating a guy for 6 years. The whole relationship is based on openness. Some months ago, I decided to cheat on my guy since I was in school and he was aware and told me to stop and I did, only for the new guy to take things seriously and told my boyfriend rubbish about me. My boyfriend tells me it’s over but still we talk on phone and even have sex but quarrel all the time. Please, advise me, I need your help…081886779…
HOW I WISH you told me your age, that would’ve aided me in knowing the kind of tongue bashing to give you. I don’t know what you’re expecting from me, but I sincerely believe you’re getting what you deserve. I don’t know what you young people think when you get yourself involved in all kinds of mess. You say you and your guy have a relationship that’s based on openness, is sleeping with another man with the knowledge of your guy what you people call openness? Sorry, but the other name for it is prostitution! Promiscuity! Sexual recklessness! Imagine, your guy knew you were cheating on him and was even telling you to stop. Obviously, he must think of you as an extremely wayward girl. If I were you, I would beg this guy thoroughly for forgiveness and see if he’ll forgive you truly from the depth of his heart. Otherwise, even if he accepts you back, things may never be the same between you guys again. He may never be able to trust you like before, or love you completely like he used to. If he decides to cheat on you too, what will you tell him? How will you fight him? In fact, some other guys will lead you on into thinking he’s forgiven you and that he’s still prepared to marry you, only for him to surprise you with a wedding invitation that has a different bride name that’s certainly not yours! Sweetheart, you have fumbled and if I were you, I would really beg this guy and ask him if there’s still a future between both of you, instead of just having sex with him for no sensible reason.
Hi Wale, you are doing a great job, may God increase your wisdom. I am 26 years old in love with a guy who does not respect nor love me. He is a flirt. But there is another guy that loves me, respects and fears me, but I don’t love him. I do not know the one to marry. Please advise me because I am confused….070327299…
YOU ARE CONFUSED? I can’t see the confusion here. Why should you remain in love with a man that neither loves nor respects you? What do you think could possibly come out of that? I think you know the right thing to do, what you lack is the courage to do it. You obviously don’t love this new guy like you love your bad boy lover and you don’t even want to try loving him. Instead, you wish him to suffer for the love of somebody who does not even deserve you. My advice? If you do not love this guy who loves and respect you can forget him, but do not ever make the mistake of dumping him for the one who does not give a hoot about you. Instead, go for somebody entirely new. I still can’t understand what you girls find attractive in bad boys! Can somebody please tell me?
Hello Doctor Love, I need your advice quickly please. I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is based in Abuja while I’m in Lagos. We have been dating for three years now but we have only been together for about six times in three years and we made love three out of those six times. We love each other. He sends me money and tries hard to take care of my needs, but the only problem is the distance. Now, out of loneliness, I started dating this guy just so he can give me good company and sex when I need one but the problem now is that I found myself falling in love with him. He says he loves me too but clearly not like my real man loves me. What do I do, Wale? My name is Tola.
TOLA, to be honest, I wish I could seek you out through some technological means and then spank you hard! You have somebody who loves you and has shown you clearly that he is serious about you, yet you’re still messing around? You obviously do not love this gentleman the way he loves you, otherwise you would not be doing this behind his back. How do you think he would feel if he finds out that you’ve been having sex with another man while he’s in Abuja working hard to provide for both of you and possibly prepare for your future lives together as man and wife? Trust me, you won’t get a pat on the back from him. Not too many men will take it easy with you if they find out. Listen, you still have time to retrace your steps and get out of that meaningless affair that could jeopardize your relationship with your Abuja based lover. You may never know, if you lose that guy, you may spend the rest of your days regretting ever messing things up with your hunger for sex!
