DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, please, I need your help badly. I have been married for about a year now and everything is going well between me and my wife. We have a baby girl that’s just a few months old. The problem is that my wife’s best friend is going crazy for me. Ever since we met months before our wedding, she has had her eyes on me but I pretended like I didn’t know anything, believing that by the time we are done with the wedding, she will forget about me. But I thought wrong. She now sends me romantic messages, telling me how much she wants to have my d—k inside her. Sometimes she sends porn to my phone. I have tried to discourage her to no avail and I don’t want my wife to know anything about it so they won’t end their relationship on my account. But, really, what do I do?
MY BROTHER, you pleaded I shouldn’t reveal your name. I feel for you. It’s not easy to be hounded by a woman you cannot touch. You are a perfect example of a responsible husband. And it’s a good thing you are keeping this away from your wife. You don’t need to expose her friend’s dirty secret, at least not yet. What I will implore you to do is to stay firm and resolute on your decision not to touch her. Let her know every point that there’s no amount of pressure from her that will make you succumb to her seduction. Then, I suggest you block her. That way, she won’t be able to send you messages or even porn again. She might of course be able to reach you with different numbers but you would at least have registered the fact that you want to cut off all forms of communication with her. Continue to ignore her. Continue to be firm and unfriendly with her. At some point, she will grow tired and leave you alone.
DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, my name is Mary, I am 23 years old. I am still in university. I have been in a relationship for a year and a half. But my mother called my boyfriend and told him to stay away from me, that she doesn’t want me distracted from my studies. Since then, the guy has been avoiding me, saying he doesn’t problems but I still love him. What do I do, sir?
MARY, I am not so sure now what you expect me to say. I’m sure you didn’t think I would ask you to ignore your mum and go ahead to keep your relationship with your guy, did you? I believe your mum is right. And I must say your guy is a sensible young man as well, that’s if he wasn’t already looking for a way to bail out of the relationship though and your mum handed him a bailout. But if he indeed simply followed your mum’s orders, then he is a sensible young man and he must be applauded. For now, I suggest you focus on your studies as your mum said. Do not worry, when it is time, it is your mum too who would ask you if you don’t have a boyfriend, and that if you have one, you should bring him home for her to see because she will be expecting you to start talking marriage at some point. So, dear, please, put a hold on your romance for now and heed your mum’s advice, very soon, you would have all the romance that you want in the world.
DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, I have a little problem and I need your help. I am Bimbo by name, and 25 years old. I have been dating my guy for a couple of years now. When we started our relationship, it was beautiful. But afterwards, we started drifting apart. He is a good guy. Both of us cannot explain the problem, but I think we are growing apart. I am tired of pretending that all is well with the relationship, I want to put an end to it and move on but I don’t know how to tell him. Please, advise me, what should I do?
DEAR BIMBO, before you take the decision you want to take, you must ask yourself, what exactly went wrong with the relationship? Do you sincerely believe you have no blame in the collapse of the relationship? And rather than jump to the hasty conclusion that the relationship is over, why don’t you sit your guy down first and both of you talk things over? I will ask that you tread with caution. If this guy is a good guy like you said, then he deserves that you sit down with him and talk things over. It could be that all you basically need is to bring back the sparks in your relationship as against completely throwing it all away. What is the guarantee that the next guy you go for will turn out to be as good as this guy has been to you? Think about it dear, and tread with caution.