I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I’d been pressured to say Yes. I was sad
It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I’d been pressured to say Yes. I was sad
Everyone was like: “You’re over 30; he’s okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!” My problem? I wasn’t happy!
Everyone was like: “You’re over 30; he’s okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!” My problem? I wasn’t happy!
He’d never hit me, but I just didn’t like him like that. I asked for time. Everyone said: “No! You agreed, you must go through with it!”
That morning, I was crying. My mother said it’s normal. I couldn’t accept that. I felt like I was being sent to a cage. I wasn’t happy!
All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they’ll break the door.
All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they’ll break the door.
11AM and we still hadn’t left the house for 10AM wedding. My dad asked me: Is there somebody else? I said no. He said: You want to shame us.
I lied then that I loved somebody else. There was nobody but I thought that would make them agree to cancel the wedding. They still refused.
By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad’s elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: “Leave her alone!”
By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad’s elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: “Leave her alone!”
She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn’t want to go through with it, then I shouldn’t. Still, some family members insulted me.
She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn’t want to go through with it, then I shouldn’t. Still, some family members insulted me.
My Dad said I should leave his house. His sister said the house wasn’t his but their late father’s (my granddad). A big quarrel broke out.
My Dad now said I was the one to call my husband-to-be to tell him I’d changed my mind. I agreed. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
Of course they were already in church. He didn’t wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn’t stop crying.
Of course they were already in church. He didn’t wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn’t stop crying.
I’ve tried to explain that I wasn’t happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself.
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I’ve tried to explain that I wasn’t happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself.
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Good decision to not go throuhh with something you didn’t want but what was the main reason. Why didn’t you like him?
@bunmi_bum_bum ..Good decision to not go throuhh with something you didn’t want but what was the main reason. Why didn’t you like him?
I didn’t feel any spark in my heart for him. I was just being pressured left and right.
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum Is this a true life story or something sorry, gotta ask
@DeycallmiFaMe It’s my life. It means avoiding a LOT of people and places. I’m even incognito here.
@bunmi_bum_bum Ha sis, I feel u, buh you dint do well at all, ofcos it’s ur life buh u dragged a lot of people into it by not taking d step earlier
@bunmi_bum_bum Ha sis, I feel u, buh you dint do well at all, ofcos it’s ur life buh u dragged a lot of people into it by not taking d step earlier
@DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly! That decision should have been made earlier. It was the best decision but made a little too late. Wish you the best though
@DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly! That decision should have been made earlier. It was the best decision but made a little too late. Wish you the best though
@OyedepoSamuel @DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Not little too late, extremely late actually.
@OyedepoSamuel @DeycallmiFaMe @bunmi_bum_bum Not little too late, extremely late actually.
@_khunby Well, maybe I will, but I’m seriously not looking.
@bunmi_bum_bum @_khunby Sorry to ask this,How long did you go along with this before your final decision?Months? Years? You’ve made your decision,time to be strong
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum really don’t know why you said yes in the first place and have them spend all that money tho. But if you’re happy now, fine
@bunmi_bum_bum really don’t know why you said yes in the first place and have them spend all that money tho. But if you’re happy now, fine
@_Ortodox Like I said in another reply, everyone just chanted “Say Yes! Say Yes!” when he proposed at a public gathering. I was weak and I’m sorry.
@_Ortodox Like I said in another reply, everyone just chanted “Say Yes! Say Yes!” when he proposed at a public gathering. I was weak and I’m sorry.
@bunmi_bum_bum don’t have to be sorry. It was for the best. You deserve happiness still
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum You can imagine the resources wasted because one Lady didn’t make up her mind before dragging families on a futile exercise…mtchewwwww!
@bunmi_bum_bum You can imagine the resources wasted because one Lady didn’t make up her mind before dragging families on a futile exercise…mtchewwwww!
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum But she did and they ignored her…repeatedly. She says so! Y’all don’t listen.
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum dont introduce a man 2 ur fam saying u want 2 marry then do a uturn without cogent reasons.They’d assume its just cold feet.which is normal
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum Everyone has doubts moments b4 the wedding. Where was she when the hall and catering was being sorted?if you are okay at that point…..
@UncleThato @bunmi_bum_bum Everyone has doubts moments b4 the wedding. Where was she when the hall and catering was being sorted?if you are okay at that point…..
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Like she said: FAMILY PRESSURE is real. I’ve booked flights and accommodation to my engagement party…it never happened!
@tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Like she said: FAMILY PRESSURE is real. I’ve booked flights and accommodation to my engagement party…it never happened!
@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum How come no one is blaming the guy
he asked for the disappointment by putting her in a tight corner
he asked for the disappointment by putting her in a tight corner@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum How come no one is blaming the guy
@harfeizz @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum These grand gestures also don’t help. Public proposal, family chanting “YES”…ageism for being over 30….a lot tbh!
@harfeizz @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum These grand gestures also don’t help. Public proposal, family chanting “YES”…ageism for being over 30….a lot tbh!
@UncleThato @tammy_amies @bunmi_bum_bum Exactly
proposing to a woman in public puts as much pressure on her as all of em dia asking for greeting, she can hardly say she cantI left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum @Olanrewaju_v if a guy did this, woke female twitter gang will come for us all
@bunmi_bum_bum @Olanrewaju_v if a guy did this, woke female twitter gang will come for us all
@Omo_Harkin @bunmi_bum_bum My country people *in Tekno voice*
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum You will be punished why you do that owhhh poor Groom
@bunmi_bum_bum You will be punished why you do that owhhh poor Groom
@MadotyeniM I’ve been punished enough, I think. I lost my job; lost life-long friendships; I’ve had to change cities; still I’m afraid to show my face.
I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me – a thread…
@bunmi_bum_bum I was there.. What a sad day for the guy
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