Doctor Love, my name is Ada. You have got to help me, please! I just found out that one of my friends, Agnes, is pregnant for the man I want to marry. My fiance and I have been dating for a couple of years now and we’re finally planning to get married this December. I know he cheats on me with other girls but weeks ago I got the shocker of my life when I went through his phone and found several messages that showed that he had been dating my friend and that she is even pregnant for him. When I confronted him with it, he couldn’t deny him. He started pleading for forgiveness and assured me that my friend has agreed to abort the pregnancy. He still wants to marry me. What do I do, Wale, I’m so confused. Please, I beg you, conceal my number.
THIS IS A VERY tough situation you have found yourself in, my dear. It is very cruel that your fiancé could do this to you when you’re only a couple of months away from you wedding. And to make matters for you, you also happen to have friends that are utterly unreliable and unfaithful. You have very mean friends who do not give a hoot about you but care only about their happiness and satisfaction. What or how can I advise you now? That you leave your fiancé and then let your friend come back to take him? Or ask you to close your eyes and ignore all he’s done regardless of the hurt he’s caused you and go ahead to marry him? Sweetheart, this is one call only you can make. It’s your decision to take. The good thing here is now you know the type of man you’re getting married to. If he could do this with your friend, then it means your sister, your house maid, your neighbour’s teenage daughter, nobody is safe from him. Some women take the issue of cheating very seriously. They will tell you a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage and they walk away from the relationship. I’m not asking you to walk away from yours, all I’m saying is, if you’re going ahead with the wedding, then you must be prepared for the heartbreaks that it might and will definitely throw your away. A man that could get your friend pregnant even before you walk down the aisle together is capable of doing anything after the wedding has taken place. Except if, by some miracle, God himself appears and delivers him, this guy will never change. What you’re seeing now is what you’ll get. Period. So, if you know you can take the heart aches, please send me your wedding invite, I will gladly honour you with my presence.
Hello Doctor Love, I need your advice quickly please. I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is based in Abuja while I’m in Lagos. We have been dating for three years now but we have only been together for about six times in three years and we made love three out of those six times. We love each other. He sends me money and tries hard to take care of my needs, but the only problem is the distance. Now, out of loneliness, I started dating this guy just so he can give me good company and sex when I need one but the problem now is that I found myself falling in love with him. He says he loves me too but clearly not like my real man loves me. What do I do, Wale? My name is Tola.
TOLA, to be honest, I wish I could seek you out through some technological means and then spank you hard! You have somebody who loves you and has shown you clearly that he is serious about you, yet you’re still messing around? You obviously do not love this gentleman the way he loves you, otherwise you would not be doing this behind his back. How do you think he would feel if he finds out that you’ve been having sex with another man while he’s in Abuja working hard to provide for both of you and possibly prepare for your future lives together as man and wife? Trust me, you won’t get a pat on the back from him. Not too many men will take it easy with you if they find out. Listen, you still have time to retrace your steps and get out of that meaningless affair that could jeopardize your relationship with your Abuja based lover. You may never know, if you lose that guy, you may spend the rest of your days regretting ever messing things up with your hunger for sex!
HI DOCTOR LOVE, I have a problem I want to discuss with you. My body doesn’t seem to move when my husband touches me, but I love him deeply. I can’t tell him because I know how he’ll feel. I have tried different sex styles all to no avail. I don’t know what to do, please help me Doctor Love (No names and number please)
DEAR, my heart really goes out to you. I can imagine how worried you must be feeling right now. Yours would’ve been easier to deal with if you’d said you do not love your husband. But from the tone of your mail, you sound like you truly still love your man. The only possible area I suspect the problem could be coming from is that of your husband’s knowledge of your husband’s body and how it responds to various forms of arousal from your husband’s touch. By this I mean, how exactly does your husband touch you? How well does he understand the various parts of your body, that is, knowing the various sensitive areas of your body that turn you on and the areas that don’t? And what about you, do you communicate your thoughts, your feelings to him? Do you let him know the parts of your body he should be concentrating on? For instance, is it your right nipple that drives you crazy when it is sucked and not the left that your hubby concentrates on? You shouldn’t be shy, you let him know. These are the things he must work on before sealing it all up with the appropriate penetration. I suggest you call me so we can really talk extensively. I’m not sure this is something we can properly address on this page.