Everywhere you turn to, the one story people are talking about is the Baba Ijesha rape/child molestation case. He was accused of sexually assaulting a 14 year old girl whom he was also alleged to have raped when she was 7 years old. He is now in police custody awaiting trial and his case has become the most talked about subject lately. There is outrage over the shocking behavior of Baba Ijesha, a man many young people would see from the distance as a decent, responsible man and a possible role model. His action has been resoundingly condemned by his colleagues, as well as the general public. But those who know will tell you this act of pedophilia amongst Nigerian men did not start today. In the last couple of years, it has been on the increase. Nearly every passing week, the Nigeria Police makes public cases of grown men, pedophiles, who have been caught either sexually assaulting their own biological daughter or a neighbour’s daughter. Some even got the minors impregnated in the process. And their reasons? They are as outrageous as the crime they committed. Before we take you through some of the reasons proffered as the drive behind their actions, let us explain first what pedophilia is.
Pedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction towards children/a child.
WHO IS A CHILD?
A child is anyone below the age of 18 and one of our primary responsibilities is to keep them away from these psychiatric patients called pedophile. There are different ways children can be abused.
Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.
TYPES OF MOLESTATION:
-Defilement, -Rape, -Fingering, -Making a child watch pornography, -Exposing the genital to kids, Indecent touching, -Fondling etc.
In Nigeria presently, cases of child molestation and rape have been on the increase. More and more adult men are taking advantage of underage girls and stealing their innocence away from them, leaving the young girls often traumatized and psychologically battered. From the reports made available to the public by the police after thorough cross examination of some of the arrested pedophiles, some of the reasons why many men are involved in this shameful act are quite unbelievable. Some do it for spiritual reasons. In their quest to become rich and affluent, or to live longer than most, they seek spiritual assistance to achieve these and one of the prerequisites, from our investigations, that’s often asked from them is the semen from a young virgin. And of course, where else would they get these virgins except from wards kept in their care, neighbours’ children and even their own child. It is yet unknown what the effect of such ritual would be on the victim but as far as these callous and diabolic individuals are concerned, they do not care. All they care about is making their money.
Another reason why a lot of men are indulged in child molestation these days, according to police investigations, is because they find in the underage girls a cheap means of satisfying their libido. This is their explanation: the economy has left a lot men financially battered. Many have lost their jobs while those who still have a semblance of a job have had to put up with slashed salaries and massive responsibilities to cope with. So, they barely have enough to cope with the financial demands of dating a mature lady who would naturally expect her partner to provide some basic needs for her. Majority of the men in question can no longer cope with buying clothes, paying for new hairstyle, getting a new phone that most of the older ladies would demand for. Hence, they prey on the innocent young girls around them.
Some men have been arrested for sleeping with their biological fathers. Some of these men are either separated from their wives or are widowers. They turn on their biological daughters because they feel no man would pay them any attention as they have nothing to offer the women in terms of financial security.
For men who are pedophiles by nature, it’s a different kettle of fish altogether. They are not subjected to any form of financial pressure or in search of any spiritual means to get rich quickly. Pedophiles are naturally attracted to young children. They find them more sexually attractive than they do older, more mature women. As a matter of fact, pedophiles are known to be shy around women, especially when they’re with older women. And all a pedophile needs is a little privacy to be with the minor and he’ll strike.
It is important for parents to pay close attention to their wards. These days, thousands of parents are absent in the growing up process of their children owing to the humongous pressure on parents to work round the clock in a bid to provide for the family. You must have a relationship with your children such that there will be nothing under the sun that they won’t be able to discuss with you as a parent.
As parents, you must also be observant. You must take notice of the little unusual things your kids exhibit now that they were not exhibiting before.
Parents must also pay sufficient attention to what their kids watch on television. There is a lot of pornographic content on television that can stir up the child’s curiosity about sex. It is important too that we discourage our children from dressing indecently. This also has a negative way of attracting pedophiles to young unsuspecting children.