•Reveals Why He Reconciled With Her
Nollywood bad boy Bolanle Ninolowo, popularly known as Nino, doesn’t need much introduction, as he is presently rated one of the best actors in both English and Yoruba movie industry. He joined the movie industry a few years ago and within a short period, he made his way to the top, every producer wants to feature him in their movies, he became the most sought after actor in the entertainment industry. Besides being a fantastic actor, he is blessed with a very good look and lots of his female colleagues and fans wanted to have him at all cost.
Nino has never hidden the fact that he had been married before now and that the marriage did not work out, as they live separately, the wife lives with the two kids in Atlanta U.S. He separated from his wife after 12 years of living together as a couple.
He met Bunmi at 24years and with 6 months into the relationship, she got pregnant and the union is blessed with 2 kids, a boy and a girl. He got her papers 5 years after he took her to the U.S, after 7 years of staying in America, everything changed, and they got separated for 5 years.
It was speculated that Bunmi deserted him when he started having challenges after he didn’t fare well in his music career.
Then towards the end of the year 2018, the couple settled their differences and came back together again, they even spent the last Christmas celebration together in the U.S.
It was alleged that Bolanle reconciled with his wife that his family and friend advised him that he stick to his wife and not have kids from many women. Also that he settled with his wife to emulate friends and stars like Odunlade Adekola and Femi Adebayo, who are happily married and still have a successful and enviable career.
Few days, the multi-talented actor took his time to explain and give a true picture of what really happened in his marriage that led to their separation for 5 years and why he decided to settle and make things work with his wife again.
What really happened that led to Separation?
Nine years ago! I short my first film on relocating to Nigeria. I was duped, lost, depressed and worried about all they will say about my failure; the mockery, the laughter, what a shame. But Bunmi (Aside from the one who conceived me). Bunmi walked with me and became my only comfort, the absolutely beautiful but simple and gentle young girl who gave up her voice for mine.
They mocked her, laughed at her and judged her, said she was just a dummy following a man and being controlled by his desires. It got so bad and the shame became unbearable. At a moment I said enough! And then relocated her to the States, to be in a better place while I faced it all.
Then the bigger and bitter struggle began and the pain set in, I became ruthless, losing myself into my own dreams and aspirations, and she began to cry, as she began to experience her new self-inflicted pain by being a single mother, hoping for my return as things got worse for her without my understanding.
The more she cried, the harder I went while becoming her enemy. The irony of life. I was punishing the same one I was determined to protect and secure a greater future. Then her anger and enormity escalated and I began to hate her. The same woman I loved became the woman I never wanted to see ever again.
The harder I went in achieving my core objective the worse it became between us. Little did we know that we were still both fighting for the vision we created but must also find ourselves individually in order to cherish and appreciate the blessing at the appointed time? These were the darkest moment of my life but I smiled every day and inspire myself by motivating others while I bled inside. It made me stronger. I found God. I read His words daily and understood Him and His destined processes for man. I gained wisdom and made His will my only purpose and fear. He said he would restore all but my impatience for His appointed time only bought me more pain but faith and my believe in His promises never changed, so I got only a strange I read of all the great men in the Bible and how much God tested their will for the blessings they desired and understood the test of determination. I lost the ideology of entitlement and understood that all in life and life itself were a mere privilege.
Then the moment we both accepted and realized it was finally over, as there was no hope for reconciliation. He humbled us. He showed up and without lifting a finger.
He restored us with immeasurable blessing.
We fought together, fought against each other but the vision we committed into God’s hand never changed.
Ninolowo being a man filled with God’s grace and very truthful admitted to his flaws.
I missed up a lot, I stumbled day and night. I made numerous mistakes, failed so many time but I remained loyal to my aim and sewed my vision to very fibres of my being and with God, I was sure that irrespective of all, the End would surely justify the means and I shall be judged and blessed by the works of my hands. This is why I would cherish her for the rest of my life. This is why I would continue to give her all because, with the good and bad times, she made me, she is my Destiny!
How sad if I hadn’t made it by God’s Grace, would I ever forgive myself, knowing I took advantage of her naiveness back then when she gave the world a deaf ear just to follow a man? Sometimes in life, if we are humble enough to leave all to God. We then get the privilege of connecting the backward. Sometimes you have to retrace your steps to reposition yourself for the greatness destined for you. All you need to do is fear God and gain wisdom and understanding. I love you B, the young girl who followed a lost bad but determined boy. I told you 15 yrs ago, I would make you queen. You saw yourself as a girl who became a wife, I saw a woman who will be queen.