•I Love Somebody Else!
Hi Wale, you are doing a great job, may God increase your wisdom. I am 26 years old in love with a guy who does not respect nor love me. He is a flirt. But there is another guy that loves me, respects and fears me, but I don’t love him. I do not know the one to marry. Please advise me because I am confused….070327299…
You are confused? I can’t see the confusion here. Why should you remain in love with a man that neither loves nor respects you? What do you think could possibly come out of that? I think you know the right thing to do, what you lack is the courage to do it. You obviously don’t love this new guy like you love your bad boy lover and you don’t even want to try loving him. Instead, you wish him to suffer for the love of somebody who does not even deserve you. My advice? If you do not love this guy who loves and respect you can forget him but do not ever make the mistake of dumping him for the one who does not give a hoot about you. Instead, go for somebody entirely new. I still can’t understand what you girls find attractive in bad boys! Can somebody please tell me?
Hello Uncle Wale, I need your help. I am a seventeen-year-old girl, a year one student in one of the universities. People say I’m pretty and I also think I am. My problem is that I have too many problems and this is because I don’t know how to say ‘no’ to guys when they come toasting me. But at the end of the day when they get tired of making love to me, they walk away and another set of guys will come toasting. I don’t know what to do Uncle Wale, please help me. Please, don’t reveal my number, Suzanne, Abuja.
For Christ’s sake, Suzanne, what is wrong with you? You have described yourself as pretty and a first-year student of the university, what then is the reason why you’re doing this to yourself? Girls who go the path you’re walking now, often than not, end up battling with a severe inferiority complex. When a woman has a terribly low esteem of herself, she grows timid and lacks the courage to look a man straight in the eye and tell him, ‘sorry, I’m not interested.’ You’ve got to wake up, snap out of this illusion you’re in and stop these ‘vultures’ you call boyfriends from draining you of all the sweetness and goodness that’s been deposited in you by mother nature. If at the age of seventeen you have lost count of the number of men you’ve been in bed with, what happens by the time you’re through with university? You would’ve emaciated greatly as a result of being ‘over sexed’ if you will permit my grammar! Please, Suzanne, stop doing this to yourself, these guys will only vandalize your body, suck you dry and dump you like a piece of trash. Do not allow yourself become a trash can of semen for irresponsible men. Don’t be cheap, add value to your body and tell yourself that no man that’s not worth his salt will ever get the privilege to date you ever again. Wish you the best.
Doctor Love, please, reply me urgently. I have been dating my man for three years now but his ex-girlfriend still wants him back. Although he says nothing will make him go back to her, I am not comfortable with the way they have been communicating on the phone, it’s getting too much for my comfort! Wale, I’m not happy, please, what should I do? My name is Peace from Port-Harcourt…..07031977…..
Dear Peace, I can understand your fears. This is an issue that, oftentimes, rears its head between couples. I can only ask you to calm down and take things easy. If your man says he does not want to take his ex back, then you must believe him. You could also let him know your fears with his ex’s renewed interest in you. But do not push it too much, else he’ll begin to see you as a nag. Three years is enough time for you to know the kind of man you’re dating. If you know him well enough, you should be able to tell if he’s being sincere with you when he said there’s nothing going on between them. My advice is, until he proves otherwise, take your mind off the issue and concentrate on making your relationship with him even stronger.