DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, I have a boyfriend. We both love each other. But the problem is that he has a female friend, they’re too close for comfort. He spends a lot of time with her,and i dont like it. They are always gisting together or talking on the phone. Several times I have asked him if they’re dating and he said no. If you see the way they play together, its as if they’re dating.And he always gets angry at me easily, especially if I let him know am not comfortable with their closeness. Please, tell me, what should i do?
My dear, your situation is one unusual kind of situation many women have found themselves in. No lady will be comfortable to see that her lover’s best friend is a woman. And if they are now close like your man and his female bestie, then there will definitely be problems.
But the best way to approach a situation like this is to apply caution. You must be careful not to be seen as trying to chase away your man’s friends. Since you have expressed your displeasure at their closeness and your man has not bulged, then I suggest you take the unthinkable option – draw the lady close to you. Do not be hostile or cold to her. Do not withdraw from your guy whenever they are together, be part of their conversation and gists.Make her your friend. But here is the trick, while making her your friend and all three of you are together, take charge of your territory, which is your man and his apartment, if thats where you guys are. Play the perfect girlfriend and host. Establish clearly that he is yours and you are the woman in his life. Do these without being rude or arrogant towards her. I am sure that, if you do this well enough, she will get the message in a politely pleasant way and back off. Good luck.
HELP! MY MAN IS
A CHRONIC FLIRT!
GOOD day, Mr. Wale, I don’t want to disclose my name in this text because of some personal reasons. I have been in a relationship with a guy for over four years now and he never gives me the right to come to his place without prior notice of the day and time. The bad part of it is that he’s a liar, a cheat and he’s never truthful to me, which I know myself. And he has slept with two of my friends! There was a day I saw in his phone a lady’s number he saved as ‘Baby Joy” whereas my name is saved in Lisa name as just my name. Mr. Wale, I love him but I have lost my faith in him. Tell me, what do I do?
ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Are you still asking me to tell you what you should do? For God’s sake, you girls just never cease to amaze me. A guy treats you like some junk the cat dragged in, tramples all over your dignity as a woman and you still say you don’t know what do? If you were my kid sister, I would not hesitate to spank you for this. How could you be so naive? You say a guy is a liar and a cheat and you could never go to his uninvited, yet it didn’t occur to you to drop him like bad habit?? I also ask this question, what is it with girls and bad boys? Why are you always stuck in love with the boys that bring you nothing but bad news? Its pretty obvious this guy doesn’t give a hoot about you, neither does he care about your feelings, so why would you claim you love him? You want my candid advice? Delete him from your memory, he doesn’t deserve the smallest space in it!
