Sex isn’t something that everyone is very open about or willing to discuss. And although communication is a huge part of a relationship, sometimes even intimate partners don’t know what to do when something unexpected happens.
WHAT TO DO IF… your partner has a low libido
Our sex drive ebbs and flows throughout our lives so there may be times when your partner loses interest or their passion wanes. This can result in you feeling rejected or concerned that you’ve done something wrong.
Changes in sex drive can be a symptom of other health concerns, such as depression, so it’s important to discuss changes in libido with your partner. However, psychologists strongly advise against bringing the topic up while you’re in bed. Instead, find time outside the bedroom to talk about it. A simple question like: “Are you feeling satisfied with our sex life?” can lead to a deeper conversation about what’s bothering them and whether or not they’ve noticed a change themselves. The cause could be something as simple as a rough time at work causing stress. If you’re both feeling concerned, it may be time to book an appointment with your GP.
WHAT TO DO IF… the condom breaks
For many couples this is the worst case scenario, often inducing panic and fear in both parties. Although there is a lot of information available online about home remedies and many old wives’ tales about how to prevent a pregnancy from happening, your best bet is still to get to a pharmacy. Aside from supplying the morning-after pill, your pharmacist can also advise you on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and have both you and your partner tested. While the morning-after pill can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex, it’s best to take it as soon as possible, and remember that it doesn’t protect you from STIs.
WHAT TO DO IF… your partner is battling to perform
While orgasm isn’t always the end goal, if your partner is struggling to get aroused and stay aroused, there might be something else going on that needs urgent medical attention. Erectile dysfunction is far more common than many people realise and happens to most men at some stage in their lives. But it’s also a key indicator of more serious health issues like diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and heart problems.
Rather than making the situation worse by implying the situation needs to be “fixed”, express your concern for your partner’s overall health and encourage them to go to their doctor for a check-up.