“Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his pleasant fruits” the voice of a woman to his man King Solomon (Songs of Solomon 4:16). This is an expression of how a woman wants to be touched and feel the presence of her man, this is not the feeling for just wanting to have sex, which has to do with the physical needs with no connections, she wants her man the King to make love to her, she wants both of her breast to be awakened from south and north, her expression is that of a woman who wants to connect her mind and soul with her man and willing to let the panties down for the show to begin. In recent times, most women feel so ashamed to ask their spouse to get down, it is important to communicate about your feelings. In any relationship, especially when it comes to feeding the need of your garden, it eats or consumes nothing else than the food its been blessed with, even from the garden of Eden, when there was no shame until the first man and woman were tempted by the snake to eat the apple that brought deceitful civilization to mankind.
When was the last time you showed some romantic feelings to your spouse? Thus, says King Solomon to her Queen “How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices” oh mine, I am so very sure that no woman will hear this from her man, and would not feel the presence of the fun to start with, we are often too culturized and fail to remember that we all need some time and hours to play some love, instead, we take much time in searching for unsearchable things that will ruin the marriage or relationship, men want to feel the aroma of “Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard” ( Songs of Solomon 4:13) Some of us women don’t want to be bothered just because our day was ethic and we are so tired to take care of the man you are married to not just by making dinner but behind close door. “I sleep, but my heart waketh: it is the voice of my beloved that knocketh, saying, Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled: for my head is filled with dew, and my locks with the drops of the night” (King Solomon 5:2), we have to understand that once your man knocked on the door, you just have to open up and allow him to walk through your world, allow him to tumble, roll and Salma salted if he wishes, doing this you are keeping your marriage, being romantic is not being bad, or tagged as bad egg.
I simply call it keeping my man for myself only. I want advise that you to go mend your ways if you are not servicing the garden when needed, water it appropriately, so it can maintain to sustain, for you to retain your spouse. Keep in mind either one can start the game of love. Tips; take a nice vacation and be alone to start rebuilding your lost sexual life and you will be glad you did. Until my next column do not forget to have him have the panties down for show to begin and have the room go dark until daybreak. Let her shout and say “My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand, (King Solomon 5:10). Lets keep working on watering the garden until my next column when I let you into how powerful your body is.
– Ranti Jacobs Agbaminoja