Doctor Wale, my name is Tina, please, I need your help. I just found out that my fiancé has been sleeping with my younger sister. I caught them red-handed. We have been dating for two years now and I love him so very much. He takes really good care of me and takes responsibility for my needs. Now, he’s still begging for forgiveness and wants us to go ahead with our wedding plans but I am confused. My parents found out that he’s been sleeping with my sister because of the heavy fight that ensued between us, I don’t know how they will take it, especially my father, if I tell them I’m still going ahead to marry Chuks. Please, what do I do?
DEAR TINA, I honestly do not know whether to feel sorry for you or outrightly tell you how shocked I am after reading through your request. In the first place, I’m wondering why you could still contemplate going ahead to marry a guy that’s been sleeping with your younger sister behind your back. If he could do this to you now when you’re not married, what do you think he’ll do when you both get married and he’s no longer under pressure to be at his best behaviour? But I suspect that, from the tone of your message, Chuks is loaded and that’s probably the reason why your sister too spread her legs apart for him! So, you don’t want to let him go because you will miss his money. But, really, it’s entirely your choice. If you feel you can stay in marriage with a man who didn’t date but was actually sleeping with your sister right under your nose, then, I wish you good luck. Then, another thing is, I doubt very much if your parents will approve of you to go ahead and marry a man who has slept with sisters from same mother. I will be shocked if they would give their blessings to such a man. But like I said, the choice is entirely yours.
DEAR DOCTOR, my name is Florence and I’m 17 years old. I have a boyfriend that’s 23 years old but all he’s after is sex which I don’t like because I’ve done it before. He’s always forcing me to do it. At first, I took him as a casual friend and then fell in love with him, but my fear now is that he’s always after sex. Please, help me and don’t publish my number, pleeeeeass..
Dear Florence, to start with, at seventeen, you should not be talking about boyfriends and sex. At your age, you should be fully focused on your studies. You should preoccupy yourself with how you should get into the university (that’s if you’re not an undergraduate yet). If you must have a boyfriend, choose one that will help you grow intellectually and with whom you can develop a relationship devoid of sex. The last thing you need now is a boyfriend whose only intention is to turn you into a sex toy, or worse still, he wants to get you pregnant and turn you into a young mother at age seventeen. You shouldn’t be looking for a friend who only needs you to satisfy his sexual cravings, you need friends who can make sensible and positive contributions to your life.
Hello Doctor Love, I need your advice quickly, please. I am in a long-distance relationship. My boyfriend is based in Abuja while I’m in Lagos. We have been dating for three years now but we have only been together for about six times in three years and we made love three out of those six times. We love each other. He sends me money and tries hard to take care of my needs, but the only problem is the distance. Now, out of loneliness, I started dating this guy just so he can give me good company and sex when I need one but the problem now is that I found myself falling in love with him. He says he loves me too but clearly not as my real man loves me. What do I do, Wale? My name is Tola.
TOLA, to be honest, I wish I could seek you out through some technological means and then spank you hard! You have somebody who loves you and has shown you clearly that he is serious about you, yet you’re still messing around? You obviously do not love this gentleman the way he loves you, otherwise, you would not be doing this behind his back. How do you think he would feel if he finds out that you’ve been having sex with another man while he’s in Abuja working hard to provide for both of you and possibly prepare for your future lives together as man and wife? Trust me, you won’t get a pat on the back from him. Not too many men will take it easy with you if they find out. Listen, you still have time to retrace your steps and get out of that meaningless affair that could jeopardize your relationship with your Abuja based lover. You may never know, if you lose that guy, you may spend the rest of your days regretting ever messing things up with your hunger for sex.