DOCTOR LOVE, please, I need you to advice me on my relationship with the girl am presently dating. We have only been together for about a year. She’s 23 while am 27. She’s just about to graduate while am already working. I love this girl. I really care about her, but I don’t know if she feels same way about me. I have a feeling that she is more concerned about the things she gets from me than what she brings into the relationship. She is always demanding for one thing or the other. And once I fail to give her something that I promised to give her on the day I said I would give it to her, all hell will be let lose. I really love her but this attitude of hers really worries me..
MY BROTHER, to be candid with you, you have a serious problem on your hands. Your babe is highly materialistic and this will continue to affect your relationship with her until things will start to fall apart between you two. Now, I am not advocating that you shouldn’t spend money on your woman or that the babe has no right asking you for money, that’s not my point. Truth is, it’s your responsibility to take care of her, especially if she lacks the financial capability to take care of herself. But her demands must be done in moderation. She must not over stretch you to a point where you have to spend beyond your means just to keep her happy. Any relationship that is centered on how much money the guy can spend to keep the lady happy is surely bound to hit the rocks at some point. Let your babe know she is stretching you beyond your limits. Let her know you’re not happy that she is not putting in enough of devotion into the relation, rather she’s just been concentrating on getting from you all the time. Do not be scared that she might threaten to break up with you, if she really cares about you, she will remain with you. But if she’s been fooling you all this while, then she certainly was never meant to be yours. Let her go. It is better you experience a broken relationship with her than a broken marriage.
DOCTOR LOVE, please, I need your help, sir. There is this guy I’ve been dating for over a year now. I love him and I thought he loved me too. At least, when we first started he was always showing me love, giving me his undivided attention. But I have noticed that all of that has changed. This guy no longer has my time. He hardly gives me money to take care of myself. A lot of times when I call him he doesn’t pick up. Most times when he even picks he is probably snapping at me. But the moment he wants sex, he won’t let me rest. That’s when he starts to tell me nice things just so that he can get in between my legs. I love this guy a great deal, but I suspect he doesn’t love me one bit. Please advise me….Abby.
DEAR ABBY, seriously, you make me very angry with your last statement. You said you suspect your boyfriend doesn’t love you one bit! Lord have mercy, what else do you want the guy to do to you before it dawns on you that he is only using you and your body to feed his Anaconda whenever it is hungry. You need to wake up, girl. The guy is using you, its as simple as that. I’m sure you deliberately did not include your age so I won’t be able to blast you because I suspect you’re probably still a teenager. And if you’re still a teenager like I suspect, then I urge you to keep away from boys for now. They are nothing but bad news. Until you’re emotionally and mentally ready for them, you will only keep getting broken hearted. Good luck to you.