The truth is that working out if a guy is really interested isn’t that complex. But, if you don’t know what signs to look for, it can seem like a never-ending puzzle.
If he is shy, he’ll never approach you or outright flirt with you; that’s not his style. He may wait months, even years, before he finds the courage to make a move!
Of course, you don’t need to wait that long. If you have some confidence that he reciprocates your feelings, you can be the one to make the first move instead.
So, let’s get you up to speed with what you need to look out for so you can answer the infamous question, is he attracted to me?
HE RESPONDS TO THE SMALL RISKS YOU TAKE
Now, we’re not saying you need to confess your undying love for him and go down on one knee to propose. But you should take small risks to see if there’s a reaction. You want to do a little bit more than what you usually do.
So, if you like the coffee shop guy, instead of just saying ‘hi,’ ask him how his weekend was. This is a small risk to see if he reacts positively. If he just nods and says, “It was good,” well, he’s not taking a step forward to match the risk you made. Again, he could be shy, but you’ll notice other signs on top of that if that’s the case.
HE DOES SOMETHING
If you chat away, and he just stands there nodding in silence, he’s not doing anything. If he is attracted to you, he will do something. By something, we mean anything.
He tries to keep the conversation going or start the conversation the next time he sees you. If you literally get nothing back in return, he’s not interested.
HE HANGS
AROUND YOU
If someone likes you, they want to spend time with you. It’s as simple as that. Now, maybe he’s too shy to ask you to hang out, so, feel free to make the first move. If he agrees to hang out with you, that’s a good sign. It doesn’t mean he likes you yet though.
However, if you two continue hanging out, then take it as a sign that he’s attracted to you. Nobody invests copious amounts of time into people they don’t find attractive.
HE PUTS EXTRA EFFORT INTO HIS APPEARANCE
When you like a guy, you take the extra time to make sure you look your best, right? So, why wouldn’t he?
You notice he’s wearing cologne; a clean, stain-free shirt; fixed his hair. Though you may not think of it as a huge deal, it is. That is, unless, he’s already into his appearance; then, you can’t really tell if it’s because of you or him.
HE ASKS YOU QUESTIONS
Because he wants to know more! He wants to know more about you, so he’s asking you what your favorite ice cream is, what your hobbies are—he’s trying to see what kind of person you are. At this point, he is attracted to you, but if he digs for information, then he’s trying to work out if you’re someone he could see himself with.
HE COMPLIMENTS YOU AND TRIES TO MAKE CONVERSATION GENERALLY
Now, men compliment women all the time, so, we wouldn’t take this one sign with huge importance. It means that they may be attracted to you, but are they interested in you?
It could be that he just wants to get you into bed, which we guess technically means he’s attracted to you. Anyway, the point is, if he notices your new haircut or says that he likes your shirt, it means he’s paying attention to you.
HE TOUCHES YOU
We don’t mean that he grabs your ass. If that happens, obviously, he’s attracted to you but he clearly doesn’t respect you.
We mean that he touches your arm or puts his hand on your back when you walk past him. These are respectful moments of physical contact, but they really show that he’s attracted to you and values you. That is much different from him just wanting to sleep with you.
HE STANDS
CLOSE TO YOU
It’s not that he’s invading your personal space, but, basically, he’s entering your personal space in a good way. If he’s attracted to you, you notice he sits closer to you than other guys.
Now, you can test this out by moving closer to him.
For example, if you sit next to each other, slide closer to him to show him something on your phone. If he doesn’t move away for more space between you two, it’s a good sign that he’s into you.
If he inches even closer, that’s an even bigger answer to your question, ‘is he attracted to me?
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