Let’s face it, a lot of people, both men and women, are going through one form of depression or the other right now. The state of the Nigerian economy has really left many battered and bruised. And part of its attendant effects is what we are witnessing these days with the rise of domestic violence in many homes. A lot of men, husbands, fathers, who have either lost their jobs or are stuck with an ailing company that has not paid salaries in months are currently battling severe depression. Many of them have lost their economic power in the home, leaving the wife to take up the responsibilities they were handling. What eventually happens is that many of such men who have either lost their jobs or searching for a better paying job become vulnerable to depression and, in some cases if they do not get the right support, suicide might be considered an option! Here are a few ways a woman can help her man overcome depression.
TALK TO HIM: This is very important, as simple as it may sound. You must talk to your man and let him know you feel his pain and that you are not going to leave him to go through this phase alone. Lift up his spirit, advice him, strengthen him, and he will appreciate you surely.
MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE: You must endeavour to be around him most of the time. He must not be left alone for too long. If you’re going to go away from the house and there’s no one else to stay by with him, call a neighbour to help keep an eye on him or call a member of the family who stays not too far away to come over while you’re away.
ENCOURAGE HIM TO SPEAK: Most depressed people don’t talk much. A lot of them simply keep to themselves. Ask him to tell you whatever he needs from you or needs you to do.
THINK TOGETHER: As a couple, his problem is your problem and vice versa. Put heads together, come up with ideas that might bring you the solution to the problem your man has. Two heads, they say, are always better than one, right?
TAKE HIM OUT: If you can afford it, taking your man out on dates during the period of depression might not be such a bad idea. You are his babe, you know those spots that excite him. Take it there and he will appreciate the gesture. And by the time he’s overcome his depression and things are picking up for him again, he will surely repay you.
REASSURE HIM OF YOUR LOVE AND COMMITMENT: This is also very key. When a man is depressed, especially if the depression is connected to his dwindling financial strength, one of his major fears would be that he could lose a bit of the respect and authority he enjoys in the relationship, or worse still, lose the woman completely. So, he will be a happy and relieved man if you reassure him of your love for him and your commitment to the relationship or marriage.
REMIND OF HIS STRENGTHS: Everyone needs this once in a while, particularly a man depressed. As his woman and partner, you will do well to remind him of his qualities and capabilities. Tell him he must remember every one of his aspirations and be prepared to go for them no matter what the situation may look like.