DOCTOR LOVE, I am in serious trouble. My name is Dennis, I am 35 years old. I am still single but already engaged to a lovely lady. I am currently going through some serious issue and it has to do with my pastor’s wife. Our branch is a small one and our pastor is also a young man in his forties. His wife is in her early thirties and she’s a very beautiful lady. Every man in the church admires her, not just because she’s beautiful but also because of the way she carries herself in the church. Being the music director in the church, I am close to both the pastor and his wife because she also sings too. The problem now is that my pastor’s wife sent me a message saying she has fallen in love with me. She told me days later after service that she wants us to be lovers and has begged me not to let anyone know about her feelings for me. She said her husband hardly has time for her and often starves her of sex in the name of fasting. She wants me to be her secret lover and she’s promised to make it financially rewarding for me. I have told her to give me some time but she says she can’t even wait. What makes it even more difficult for me is that I really, really, admire this lady, she is very sexy and gorgeous looking, but I also know that it’s a grave sin I will be committing if I sleep with her. What do I do, Doctor Love, what advice can you give to me? And please don’t reveal my number, I beg you in God’s name.
DENNIS, DENNIS, DENNIS!!! How many times did I call you? Run as fast as your legs can take you and flee from that woman. She is clearly an agent of Lucipher himself. If she has issues with her marital sex life, she should sit down with her husband and sort things out with him. Going around and looking for a guy to jump into bed with is not the solution to her problem. Or, for how long does she imagine she can keep jumping into bed with other men and not get caught one day? A pastor’s wife for that matter! And its obvious that she has charmed you with her beauty too. If you had your way, you would instantly jump into bed with her. You need to be very careful with this lady. Tell her you cannot give her what she’s asking for, that it’s a big sin before man and God. What if you both get caught? Even you could lose your wife to-be if that happens. She will be too ashamed of you to go ahead with the wedding. Please, my brother, be very careful. Flee from that evil woman!
HELLO WALE, my ex broke up with me recently. He said that he has been cheating on me and that it will be better to go separate ways. After three months, his friend asked me out and we started dating. I told my new boyfriend everything about my ex and I asked if its fine his friend, my ex, knows we are dating and he said no, its not right. He said his friend would think I’m a cheap girl to have dated his friend just after a few months of break up. Please, advise me on what to do.
TO BE HONEST with you, I don’t quite get what you’re asking of me. Is it that you’re asking if you should discontinue the relationship or if you should keep it away from your ex? It would’ve been better if you called so we could talk. That way, I would understand you better. But quite frankly, I have never and would never subscribe to ladies jumping straight into the arms of the friend of their ex boyfriend to start another relationship not long after they got dumped! It very seldom works out. It’s either you’re doing so out of revenge to spite your ex lover without realizing it, or you’ve been admiring him all the while and just couldn’t wait to get into bed with him and of course, this makes you nothing but cheap! For all you know, the guy is probably taking advantage of your broken heart just so he can get in between your legs and then tell friends, including your ex, that he’s been there too! And then, there’s the last part I want you to think about. If indeed your new boyfriend is serious about you, do you think you guys can ever take the relationship to the next level which is marriage? Or is that not what you would be hoping for when you go into a new relationship, except of course if you’re still pretty young to start thinking of marriage (you didn’t state your age). Do you think this guy could ever see you as a possible wife material knowing that his friend once dated you and had sexual intimacy with you? Do you think he will ever be comfortable with that? I doubt it. Your new boyfriend is right to say he thinks your ex might regard you as a cheap girl for dating him shortly after he dumped you. But what I do not know is whether he too has genuine feelings for you that’s worth risking your pride and dignity as a woman for.
DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, I have a very serious problem that I have been too ashamed to discuss with anybody. My name is Kike and I am 23 years old. My best friend’s name is Angela and we have been friends since our secondary school days. The problem I have is with her boyfriend, I think I have fallen in love with the guy. He’s a very cute guy. And I have caught him looking at me in a strange way too. Something tells me he knows I like him and I think he likes me too. But he knows Angela and I are very close so he can’t come after me. And I can’t go after him too. What can I do, Mr. Wale, I really love this guy. Please, conceal my number, my friend reads a lot of magazines.
KIKE, I would’ve preferred to speak with you via phone. To start with, I would’ve loved to ask you, do you have a boyfriend yourself? If you don’t, then I think that’s where your problem is coming from. If you have your own man, you will not be lusting after your best friend’s lover. What do you want her to think of you if she finds out you have been lusting after her man, do you think she will ever trust you again? Secondly, I would’ve loved to ask you if you understand what it means to stab a friend in the back because that is exactly what you’re about to do now. I will advice you get your mind off your best friend’s man, it can only bring you nothing but trouble. If you do not have a boyfriend, then open your doors for your own man to come in so you can divert all your love and affection to him instead of lusting after Angela’s sweetheart.