Christmas. A time for living, a time for believing. But it’s not all about just living through life.
What if we want to get a date?
Getting out there, turning up at all the Christmas parties you can and working that room with the right body language is what you should be doing.
Sound obvious? You’d be surprised how many people shy away from the action. You know who you are. This is the season to say yes to all social opportunities. At least, the ones that hold huge prospect for you.
Parties are where it’s at. Especially if you’ve got the chance to do a little mingling in a nicely coded area that would suit you to find a date. Perhaps this is the office. Or that cool part of town you aspire to move to with Miss or Mr Right.
And turning up isn’t enough. Oh no. Competition is rife.
These are really important tips to help you.
1. STAND, STAND AND STAND!
Sitting is closed off and inherently says ‘go away’. Standing means you’re ready for action. Think about it, who are you more likely to approach – someone sitting down or someone standing up?
2. STAND AT THE BAR
‘But I already have a drink!’ – doesn’t matter. We know it’s best to stand but you’re hardly going to stand in the middle of the room. Standing at the bar is the most natural way to get chatting: ‘Gosh, how long have you been waiting here?’… ‘It’s so busy in here! Better bulk order!’… ‘Ooo, what are you drinking? I might have to get one of those instead!’. Variants are, of course, welcome.
3. BE FLUID
No, not with your body and not on the dance floor. Move around! If something isn’t working for you, mix it up! Go to a different corner, a different room, a different bar even! It’s called ‘covering ground’!
4. MAKE EYE CONTACT
It’s the science of attraction. Locking eyes with someone doesn’t just say you’re interested; it actually increases attraction! The more eye contact, the more intense the chemistry. It’s primal. It’s saying hi… but with your eyes.
5. HEAD UP AT ALL TIMES
Let your eyes make a lap of the room and if you like the look of someone, make eye contact. Remember, you’re confident, you’re approachable and you’re getting away! There’s nothing more attractive than not being able to have someone… temporarily, anyway.
6. IF YOU’RE IN A GROUP, MAKE EYE CONTACT
This cannot be emphasized enough. Eyes aren’t just for spotting lookers; they’re for communicating with said lookers. You can engage in regular conversation with your friends while flirting on the sly. Remember to get up and circulate – you have to create an opportunity where you can be approached.
7. USE OPEN BODY LANGUAGE
You know how they say don’t face your back to the audience? Same applies. Face the crowd; don’t hide behind pillars or extremely tall friends. Fringe out of your face, don’t cross your arms and tuck the chunky coat away.
8. APPEAR TO BE HAVING A BLAST!
Or better yet, have a blast! When you spend your night fixated on scouting for a member of the opposite sex you become boring. Keep it in mind, sure, but have fun in your own right – don’t rely on others to make it a great night. It will only end in disappointment. Better yet, people gravitate to energetic, happy people. If you enjoy yourself, other people will want to join in on the fun!