Do you find it difficult to speak your truth to the one you love? Do you often censor your true feelings so you do not hurt someone else?
When in the presence of others, we sometimes find it hard to be authentic and end up hiding our joy, pain, truth, or love. It can be challenging to be in relationships with others and continue to stay true to ourselves. Rather than being enmeshed with, or feeling abandoned by, the other. We may find it hard to let go of wanting to save or fix another and just take care of our own selves.
The importance of identifying the roles we play for one another and setting personal boundaries within relationships. Having intimacy without responsibility for others is about practicing the art and skill of freedom within the relationship, and moving toward more love and self-care. When we truly heal and take care of all of our own issues, we are able to love more deeply.
We have to learn to be in a relationship without taking responsibility for another person’s feelings or pain (or even their success or joy).
The greatest freedom in the world is being able to be emotionally honest with others and of course yourself. When you can express your real feelings, your body is so happy and healthy. If you hold in your real feelings because you are afraid of someone else’s reaction, you are not being real, or honest or authentic, and you begin to lose parts of yourself.
It is perfectly healthy to care about people feelings and their pain and sorrow. Also, we all want to be happy and wish for our loved ones to be happy. The thing is, we are all here on our own journey through life, in order to evolve our soul. Opportunities arise all the time for people to discover their deeper powers. Pain, challenges, change, sorrow, loss and grief are often the things that opens a person to their inner power and strength. When we shield our loved one from pain or hurt, we are taking away their opportunity to discover their greatness!
These are few steps to reclaiming your voice.
“To become authentic, we require a thirst for freedom” – Don Mteo Sol
Determine your role in any situation. Are you enabling others? Are you allowing people to take advantage of you? Are you asking for help? Always remember that you are responsible for what is happening to you by allowing it to happen.
Be aware of your inner critic, the more you use your voice, the louder the inner critic gets. Fear will kick inn by protecting you from the unknown and further hurts, simply notice this inner voice, appreciate them for trying to protect you and simply take the courage to use your voice
“Courage is like a muscle,’ we strengthen it by use – Ruth Gordon “
Take the courage to always share your authentic feelings. Remember inauthenticity breads inauthenticity. Authenticity breads Authenticity. Give yourself permission to share exactly how you feel, whatever is going on with you, give yourself permission to share it. Example, AM SO STRESSED TODAY, this moment of simple authenticity allows you to receive compassion and empathy from others
Through practicing these daily mind interventions, you will become the master of the enlightened relationship. You will move past your fear of being real, become courageous and use your voice fearlessly