Taiwo Ajai Lycett is a movie legend. She revealed a lot in her recent interview with The Nation, a daily. According to her, “I have been through the fire, I emerged fortified, I was 15 years old when I had a child, by 16, I was on my own, I knew I was going to get a good education. I was going to be a Lawyer, but I knew that I was on my own. My family disowned me, I married David Akinduro in 1959 after I relocated to the U.K., but I left him owing to domestic violence.
I met Thomas Lycett long after I divorced my first husband, eventually, I married him and we had a blissful marriage. He died when I was 52 years old. I remember him every day. He was the one who told me that I was better off being an actor. In 2006, I was robbed and raped in my house at Egbe. I was tied. I was beaten, I was brutalised, my health was ruined.
I was blindfolded and raped. The man who raped me complained that he could not gain easy entry into me because I wasn’t wet. I told him “widows don’t get wet”. I kept talking to them and asked them repeatedly, are you doing this to your mother? Angrily, they taped my mouth but I remained fearless and prayed all through the attack.
The Police came. They expected me to pursue the case. I knew the masterminds. I could have got them incarcerated, but I simply moved on. Look at me today, I am over it. See the mind is a beautiful thing, when you hold on to past hurt, you tie yourself down to grief. You get infected its poison. Rather than wallowing, in grief and self-pity, I picked up myself and sought medical help, ensuring that they hadn’t infected me with any STD. That same year, the Obasanjo government got me the officer of the order of the Niger (OON) national honour.
A few years later, one of them came to prostrate before me, pleading for my forgiveness. I told him to seek forgiveness from God. I told him that I had moved on.