Hello, Wale, my name is Sandra, a single mother of a 12 year old pretty girl. I have been reading your column for a while now and I must say I’m impressed with the manner you have handled some of your very tricky requests. Though there have been times I felt you were a bit harsh. I just pray you don’t come down harsh on me too because I have a very crazy problem on my hands. There is this my neighbour’s hubby that I like so much. The wife and I are really good neighbpours. Not that we are friends really, but we are good neighbours, that’s how I will put it. She has this very tall and handsome husband who is always looking lustfully at me and my big bumbum anytime his wife is not close by. He stylishly got my number sometime ago and has been trying to lure me to go out on a date with him. The truth, Wale, is that I have not dated anyone for a while now and I really like this guy. He tells me how badly he wants me in his arms. He is really driving me crazy. Please, don’t be harsh on me, but what do I do?
MADAM SANDRA, I will try not to be very harsh on you. I will try not to tell you that you’re acting like a young teenage girl who should be spanked severely for even conceiving the amorous desires you have in your head for another woman’s husband. But, like I said, I will try not be harsh on you. I would’ve told you that rather than concentrate on how you would be a proper role model for your little girl, you want to take her through the immoral lane by sleeping with another woman’s hubby with whom you live in the same house together. Supposing by some chance the lady finds out, which is highly possible, and she decides to humiliate you in the house while your daughter is right there watching everything, what will you tell her? What does that make you, a good mother or a slut? But I have promised not to be harsh, so I won’t say a word more. I wish you the best in your sexcapades. Just remember, before you walk into that hotel room with him, what will you tell your daughter happened, if the wife finds out and disgraces you in the compound? Good luck and have fun.
Dear Doctor Love, I have a little problem and I need your help. I am Bimbo by name, and 25 years old. I have been dating my guy for a couple of years now. When we started our relationship, it was beautiful. But afterwards, we started drifting apart. He is a good guy. Both of us cannot explain what the problem, but I think we are growing apart. I am tired of pretending that all is well with the relationship, I want to put an end to it and move on but I don’t know how to tell him. Please, advice me, what should I do?
DEAR BIMBO, before you take the decision you want to take, you must ask yourself, what exactly went wrong with the relationship? Do you sincerely believe you have no blame in the collapse of the relationship? And rather than jump to the hasty conclusion that the relationship is over, why don’t you sit your guy down first and both of you talk things over. I will ask that you tread with caution. If this guy is a good guy like you said, then he deserves that you sit down with him and talk things over. It could be that all you basically need is to bring back the sparks in your relationship as against completely throwing it all away. What is the guarantee that the next guy you go for will turn out to be as good as this guy has been to you? Think about it. Dear, and tread with caution.
Hello, Dr. Love, my name’s Mary. I need your help. I do not enjoy sex with my guy and he’s the only one I’m dating. I don’t want to cheat on him by testing it with another guy. Please, help me…0816881…
Dear Mary, I would’ve liked to know your age first and find out from you if your guy met you a virgin. I say this because, from your text, you sound to me like you’ve never had sex with any other man apart from your boyfriend. If that’s the case, all you need to do is discuss your feelings with your man. Let him know your frustrations. Show him the part of your body that you would like him to touch and concentrate on. If he’s also the type that pays little attention to romance and foreplay and then mounts you even before you get wet, let him know your body doesn’t react well to this. You need to have an intimate discussion with him. It should really worry him too that you’re not enjoying sexual intimacy with him, any man worth his salt should be unselfish when it comes to lovemaking. If a woman can’t feel her man, and enjoy him, then its as bad as being punished by him. Open up to him and let him know how you feel, hopefully, if he cares about how you feel, he would put aside his own pleasures and work towards satisfying you.