Mr. Wale, I am a twenty seven year old lady dating a guy I hope to get married to in the next few months. We love each other very much and sincerely, I couldn’t have asked for a better man. But there’s a problem. Whenever I go visit him in Ibadan where he works, I always tremble inside me, especially when its night time and we have to go to bed. The moment its time for the inevitable (love making) I begin to sweat. You see, Mr. Wale, my guy’s dick is huge and he bruises me each time we make love. Most times, I don’t enjoy making love to him but I pretend to just so that I don’t hurt his feelings. Please, what do you advise I do about this because I’m worried it might become such a big problem when we get married. Please, conceal my number.
– Yetunde, Lagos.
Hmm…this one is serious o. My dear, it is indeed different strokes for different folks. I do know that a lot of women complain about partners who have what they consider as small penis. In fact, this category of women would more than likely throw a party if they woke up one morning (or is it night?) and find that your partner’s dick size had grown from its original pint size to a super stud size. But here you are, complaining that your partner’s too big for you. Anyway, I do not see that as a problem. As it is, you can’t really do anything about your partner’s ‘size’, but you can definitely do something about accommodating his size. First step is to let him know that his size is a problem to you, although you do appreciate the fact he’s well endowed. Then you make him understand how important it is for you that he engages in prolonged foreplay with you before penetration, that way, you would be sufficiently lubricated down there and too fired up for him to care about the size that’s coming at you. If you find that natural lubrication isn’t sufficient for you, you might get some regular body cream close by. Let him also know the parts of your body that turn you on and get him to work overtime on those parts. If he gets it right and he does his business well, you will be the one begging him to and get you and the size of his dick won’t matter to you anymore. It will be the last thing on your mind. Soon, you might even begin to find more pleasure with his ‘King Kong’ size. Try this and let me know if it works for you. Best of luck.
Hello, Doctor Love, I have a problem I want to discuss with you. I’m sorry I won’t tell you my name and please don’t publish my email address. I am a married woman in my mid-thirties. I got married to my husband November last year but never got intimate with him because he was largely out of the country. Looking back now, I think it was a really grave mistake. It first started on our wedding night. After the whole celebration noise had gone down, and we had our side of the duplex to our selves, it was time for my husband and I to get to the ‘real’ business of the day. I was really looking forward to that moment and just couldn’t wait to climb out of my wedding gown and eat up my handsome sweetheart. He seemed quite ready for me too judging by the way he feasted his eyes on my firm looking boobs and well rounded bum, both of which hadn’t felt a man’s touch in ages. You can therefore imagine my shock, disappointment and pain when the whole thing barely lasted for five minutes! At first, I’d attributed it to the stress and fatigue of the past weeks leading to our wedding, and I was hopeful things will change. Nothing has changed, Wale, if anything,, I think he just keeps getting worse. Soon, I fear it will get to a point my man would mount me, and before I can feel his penetration, he’ll climb down and tell me he’s done. What can I do, Wale, I am suffering inside. I have tried to express my pain to my husband and he keeps assuring me he’ll do something about it. To be honest with you, Wale, I love my husband and can’t even think of cheating on him, but still, I don’t know how much of this torture my heart can take. Help, doctor Love, what can I do?
My dear, you have no idea how much your mail touched me. Even if you didn’t ask, I probably would’ve concealed your identity and protect you from the backlash that I’m sure would follow once the readers get to read your story. Its very easy for people to judge very easily even when they have absolutely no idea what you’re going through. Some would be quick to say, ‘is sex all that matters to her? Doesn’t she love her husband enough to endure and put up with his below par sexual performance? Or is she some nymphomaniac that cannot be satisfied by one man? People surely will talk, but the truth is, they will never know how serious this is. First, I will plead that you be very patient with your husband, this must be a lot more difficult for him than you can imagine. If you’re not careful how you go about grumbling about his inability to drive you nuts in bed, you might be slowly killing him inside without realizing it. Let him know you love and care for him regardless of the fact that he’s not quite taking charge of his business in the bedroom department. You guys must talk about this together. He must take the bold step of meeting with a medical doctor who can examine and recommend for your husband medications that will address his condition. In the meantime, you can also help by letting him know exactly how to you on, where to touch and get you flying in another planet. If you guys work together on this and put your mind to it, you will surely get some results. Assure you love him and nothing will stand between you two, sexual satisfaction or not. You didn’t even say if you guys already had a child, but it’s alright. Please, seek the services of a medical expert and keep your love burning strong.
Doctor Love, can you help me? I have a lady in my life whom I love so much, but the problem I’m having with the relationship is her ex! The guy simply will not let her be. He finds every reason to call her, to see her and even keeps in touch with my woman’s siblings and yet she says its over between them! What do I do, Wale, this situation is driving me crazy.
My brother, I can understand your fears. Everyone feels this way whenever an ex flame that should’ve been dead and buried suddenly makes a return and starts throwing spanners into the works for you. It can be really frustrating. But I’d like to think that it all boils down to the woman involved. If you trust her and she has her head screwed on tight to know that she’d be asking for trouble if she gives her ex too many liberties, then there’s nothing to worry about. It won’t be totally out of order though if you could also speak with your woman and let her know how uncomfortable with the situation, but be careful not to begin to show traits of a man that’s feeling terribly insecure. Most women don’t like that.. It might seem amusing and pleasing to them at first when they realize you actually love them enough to feel jealous over their closeness with a male friend. But when it begins to get out of hand, they start showing irritation. Once you’re certain to a large extent, all you need to do is talk about it and let her know how you feel.